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2006-06-20

Name: mina Everything was so normal... the baby was so active.. But one fine morning I had the biggest shock of my life.. my baby died in my womb. There was no reason at all... no chord around neck.. nothing..
We cried. Hoped it was a dream and will soon be over.
I delivered her normally.. my husband was all along by my side, in the labour room too.

Doctor said it was a beautiful baby.. seemed she was sleeping...

We couldn't gather the courage to look at her. Now I wish I had seen her.

I am still crying and hoping that it is a dream...

When I am alone I pray to my baby to take me along with her.

I have named her Hia... It means 'heart'..

Thanks for reading..
Pray I find peace.

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2007-03-14

Name: Rathi
Subject:

same here

Hi,

Same happened tome before 6 months, i had a miscarriage in 21 weeks it was a baby boy, as i was asked to be in bedrest rite from the time i conceived i was in complete bedrest, 21st week unavoidably i was forced to travel as we were relocating to bangalore and the next day i had miscarriage,cervical incompetence,cervics opened and water loss,and so they injected and killed my baby inside me and made it as a normal delivery...im still not out of that loss,,,every single nite ive been crying ,i was feeling him speaking to him cuddling him inside but i was not even able to c see his face ....nothing bad more than ths could happen in my life ...im not able to forget the black day in my life,,, now we are trying for past 3 months and nothing is happening ...but i felt lite when i read that u delivered a baby girl after misc ...

2006-07-20

Name: Julie
Subject:

I am so very Sorry

Hi Mina,
I am so very sorry to read about your loss. All I can say is that no body'd life is ever perfect. God renders some grief to each and every person in one way or other thats the way of life. Remember something Beautiful is in store for you. I will pray for you.

2006-06-22

Name: Tanswap
Subject:

hi mina

Hye Mina,
Thanks for replying.And I absolutely agree your feeling !I felt the same way.Well since my mc was at 7 weeks the doc said that there was a wrong formation that means either the egg or the sperm were defective and so the baby could not grow.I literally broke down when I saw my own baby fall off through my vagina and leave my body.I thought that I was severely punished for something!!!!And yes that was my first child as well.And had doubts of getting pregnant again etc.
But let me tell you this IS NOT A FAILURE on your part.YOu were taking care of the baby but God has special plans for you and will bless you with a baby again and that too very soon.

And I can say this becoz after some months I was blessed with a child and now my daughter is 16 months old.Believe me since the time she has come in my life not even for a second I miss my first baby!Coz God has given me this one and absolutely feel blessed each and every moment.

I know this will happen with you also.Just believe in yourself,don't lose confidence and have lots and lots of faith in God.HE will bless you very soon.
By the way where are you?I mean India,USA ETC?Let me know.I am in USA.Please reply as and when you get time.
Again don't forget I am there for you friend if you feel like talking etc.Only a person gone through this will understand this.
Take care,
Tanswap.

2006-06-23

Name: mina
Subject:

Thanks

Hi

Your mail made me feel better. It's good to know that I have a friend who realizes how I am feeling.

I am very happy to hear that you are blessed with a beautiful girl. This has brought back hope in my heart.

I am not sure when I will be trying again. Doctors have told me that we can start right away.. But I have to decide whether I am ready emotionally.. How long did it take for you to conceive?

I am in India.. in Bangalore... actually I am from Kolkata.. both of us are into Software.. that's why we travel a lot..
the baby was conceived in Australia last year september... we were so happy then.. as was everybody around us..little did we know that this day was coming in our life..

Thanks again for writing to me.. I was a regular in Indiaparenting thruout my pregnancy.. but all these days I was avoiding it..
But I was wrong.. After posting these messages here and getting your replies, my heart seems to be lighter..

Do write to me when you find time..

2006-06-20

Name: Tanswap
Subject:

shocking!!!

Hey Mina,

I don't even know what words to write which would comfort you. Loss if a baby is really an emptiness we feel as women.

I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks only and felt that that was the end of the world!But reading your post just broke my heart! You will not believe it probably, but I had tears in my eyes.
My heart goes out to you friend!!!Hopefully you come out of this trauma soon and it is really good that your husband is by your side as was mine also .
Just don't lose hope. Good things will start happening.All I would suggest is if you are not working,start going out like malls, etc. That's what I did. Read good books and see some nice movies.
nothing and surely nothing will ever compensate to what you are going through.
Take care and wishing the best for you.
Tanswap.

2006-06-21

Name: mina
Subject:

Thanks

Tanswap

Thanks a lot for your reply.
It really helped.

Sorry for your loss. I know, when it is the question of a baby, it feels the same whenever you lose it. And it is really important that our partners are there by our sides. We also should get strong for their sake.

You know, it is feeling like somebody has tore my heart off. There is a sense of failure too. This was my first child. Her arrival would have made my life more perfect.

But destiny had some other designs.

I am working, and the doctor and all my family adviced me to join back to work. I did. But I don't think it's helping much at the moment.

Thanks for hearing my story. It really feels good to be able to tell somebody. Everyone seems to avoid the topic, in fear they will hurt me. But I want to talk. I really want to talk about my baby.

I know good things will come along.. Optimism will come back to my life again. But until then it will be a very dark time.

You take care too..
Did the doctors give any reason for the mc? I hope evrything will be fine next time.
When are you supposed to try again?

Do write to me if you get time.

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