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Name: dia

Dear Chandana,
I read al ur postings and glad that ur mariage is in safe position though very delicate and sensitive issues surrounding!
But believe me ur belief \" no competitors after 30 yrs \" is gonna become true within sooner years not even that loong.
A person who bend and obey to parents words has more tendency to listen wife too.Its true that he' s gonna listen to u if u show little wisdom. I understand u said u dont have wisdom that can show hard impact with soft words. Thats wrong! U too have it!! because I used to feel similar way .Even now I feel somewhere. But I got a chance to live in india for 1year and now I' m being nice to them heartfully(luckily they changed and being nice to me even ).

This is frm my experience and it can help u realising him they dont need money frm him.

Stay close to mil and sil and observe things how they shop and how they spend money .When u know they bought something...u bring to hubby' s notice gently and smilingly \" Ohw, ur mom bought this . really they do frequent shopping na, anyhow they n' joy life to great level. Good.But see me, I everytime think twice for spending a penny. Not tht u dont give me,dear. but I' m made like this....May be they r working and have that freedom, could that be reason??\" \" like that u talk to him and leave answer to him....And before he answer something conclude urself \" I' m made like this, Anyway u r here to take care of me ,right \" and leave that room while changing topic.
Never give him time to speak on it. Just u r telling ur views. If h' s gonna argue or something ..\" hey, jus it was opinion andas i seethem shop frequently I appreciate their living thatsit...pl dont take to mind\" There u leave him.

But the words neer gonna leave him. He' ll definitely realise fact.

When u have cunning inlaws , u need notto be cunningly wise, but just make him realise facts thats enough. I too tell him these facts , and he slightly understood me. and value of his money.

Ok dear, i' ll write again. have lots to write to u...

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