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Hi,

I have a problem regarding my sister. She is 26 and getting married next month. Problem is her hubby-to-be is also 26 years old and is lacking maturity. Most of the time he is talking like a child and does not take care of his responsibilities like taking care of the savings, thinking about the future. In short I can say he is in the dream world.My sister is working and earining good, so she can take care of her finances.
Problem is how she can make him understand after the marriage reagrding his responsibilities in such a way that he is not offended.

Thanks for your help!! surekha venkatramanan replied. Hai SG,

First your sister after marriage should stay far away from his friends because; if he is childish other may take advantage of the situation and create problems in her life. His behavior may create some petty quarrels. Hence your sister should control her nerves and study him very deeply and try to find out what is making him to behave childish.

May be due to age which is same for both because, females thinking power and sensing danger is more than males. Your sister may be thinking and expecting for ahead than him (like expecting him to behave like a 32 year old person)

Ask your sister to put all responsibility on him. Put the responsibility in such a way that she should make him realize that if he make mistakes the result will very grave. Along with responsibility tell her to keep two options for the responsibility either/or.