hi,
i've been married for 6 years, hv a 21 month old baby. am in the US right now. ever since our baby was born, i hv been feeling pretty depressed and angry cause i dont get any time for myself anymore. initially it was ok, but now that he's running around and all, he wants my attention all the time, i find myself so angry on him that almost everyday i scream at him and sometimes hit him. i feel so bad cause he's small and does what he has to do. but i cant help it. i am having a lot of temper these days. my husband helps me a lot once he comes back from his work, but till then its a total mess for me. i dont get time to browse the net or watch movies or anything. all the time goes in looking after him and cooking and all. sometimes i feel i am sick of this life. do u hv some advise for me. i love my baby so much i cant explain but still when he throws a tantrum or something like that, i hit him and scream at him like mad. sometimes i feel i shd die. i dont know whats happening to me. will doing yoga or meditation help me. i want to be fair to my baby and dont want to be a bad mother. pls help me. how can i reduce this temper and enjoy motherhood. is all this normal.. Radhika replied. u need a lot lot of patience when u r a mom..if ur anger and depression are something that has started after baby is born, i would defintely see a counsellor/Gynaec..since ur hormones have a lot to do with depression

If that is cleared..yes mediatation,relaxation will help.
organize ur life.
try to form a playgroup and take turns taking care of babies..so all moms get rest.
If u can u can even try day care if u can afford.
Its a couple of things.for stay at home moms, sitting at home entire day with baby, having home responsibilities..etc, just gets monotonous.
Finish cooking early morning before baby wakes up, so u can play and rest while baby is awake. Sleep when baby sleeps too.
Baby throwing tantrums..shows he is getting bored and wants something to do..and this age is tantrum age. Make him hop/jump/climb so he eats well and gets tired has proper naps..
routine is very essential for u and baby to prevent exhaustion.
Talk to nurse (pediatrician) if u have one avl 24 hours call..they help too.
Hospitals too have groups of moms helping each other.
Take help..if u need it and ask guidance when u need it.
Remember u can hit and scream only becoz child doesn't know how to hit back...and we are losing control not the child. So if u get angry..walk away if u can..else just hug them..and both be quiet for some time.
Take care.
Radhika


mom replied. Hi mom, I'm on the same boat too. When I read your query,I saw myself!!! Seriously,Go and join a playgroup that's near your area and this way, you will get to meet lots of other moms and your baby will also have fun going out. And once your hubby comes home, i'm sure you will also feel relaxed when you have a better day. Bty, where do you live in the US/India?