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Name: Asha

I am an Indian women livind in bangalore, ny husband wants to adopt but I am sceptical because we have reached to this decison beacusr of his infertility and I had gone through 2 rounds of IVF, during which I did not receive any emotional support from him.

I have a pent up negativity because of this.

And I have my fears regarding adoption like,

-what if I dont love my adopted child?

-I feel like a failure going through adoption as its the second option and because of no fault of mine?

-what if the adopted child doesn't like me?

-Do adopted kids search and yearn for their birth parents as depicted in movies?

On the top of these, on expressing these fears to my husband, he gave me an ultimatum of agreeing for adoption or us getting seperated..and Iam not able to digest the fact that he doesn't want me if there are no kids.

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