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I ahd every intention to live in a joint family when I got married 10 years back. After a year of differences, both cultural and personal - my husband and I moved out. My husband was totally against moving out, but I was clear that if we remained living jointly I would sufffer a total breakdown or we would end up divorced.
In the beginning my husband was very difficult about everything, ie food house etc, so much so that I ended up giving up my job.
During the past 8 years I have been at home, paying attention to home and family. I have no regrets about moving out. My MIL and Sil had made it very difficult for me to adapt myself to a new culture and my husband had always turned a Blind eye.
I have a young son and I have decided that I would prefer that he move out before he gets involved in a serious relationship or gets married. It is only natural that we are there for our elders but is it necessary that we curb our desire to live our lives the way we want to? Isn't that going against nature? #### replied. I read your message and totally agree with you. Even I have thought the same for my children too. Parents are the guiding sole for children but not when your children are 35 or 40 yrs old. We have handled our life and marriage let them be independent to do so....Cheers....it is perfectly ok... ******** replied. You are absolutely right in thinking of not involving in your childrens lives when they are married. By doing so, why do you feel like going against nature ? I dont find any reason to feel guilty.