Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

I'm not married yet. But if and when I do, I don't want to have any children. I think in an over populated country like India that doesn't require any justification. I just don't want another human being to struggle in life like i'm doing right now ( that too a human being brought to this world by ME). The problem is, do I tell about my decision to my wife to be before marriage? or do I try to convince her after marriage. How do I tackle this situation in case of a) arranged marriage b) Love marriage. Please help!!!
Shrinivas friend2 replied. I definitely think you MUST tell your decision to ur wife. I fully agree what 'friend' has written. Think ab't it. Life is wonderful and make the most of it. Once u get old and yearn for kids....that would be too late. Good luck ! friend replied. hi,
I feel sad that u dont want to hv any children. If u r thinking about it only for the reason of not to increase the population, then ur reason is wrong. U can have only one child. No need to hv no. of children. But if its for other reasons (like u mentioned - struggling in life) then, well, I cant say anything, but its ur decision.
U have to inform about this decision to ur wife before marriage. It wont be fair to tell her after marriage. No woman will be convinced after marriage about not to have children. Women r born to bear children and every women wants to have a child of her own. It will be a shock for ur wife if she comes to know of this decision after marriage. It will be like cheating her. What will be life to her if she is not allowed to have kids. So please, please inform ur wife before marriage (whether arranged or love) about ur decision and choose the person who agrees with u.
And, if possible, try to change ur decision. Think about this, what will life be without kids. U will get married and will hv the same life year after year. I am not saying u will be bored only with ur wife but life will always be the same. U will leave for office, come in the evening and it will be the same. But when a baby comes, life changes drasticially. U wont hv that same life year after year. Everyday u will come home from office and wont know what to expect as there'll be something new. There'll be many changes like watching ur kids grow, then school & education, etc. U will hv something to look forward to everytime.
Hope I could convince u to atleast think about ur decision. But if u still decide not to have kids at all, pls. do the right thing for ur wife - informing her on ur first meeting.
Bye and all the best in life.