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Hi everybody,

I need anybody's help in solving this problem.I have a friend who happens to keep her baby with me for baby sitting and runs away for her errands.She has no problems just leaving her baby with me without even thinking about my space or whether I am busy or not.She runs away for 2 to 3 hrs and comes back only when she knows that it is her baby's bedtime and by now she may be tired.
I am a housewife and now my life revolves around her baby,by evening I am dead tired and can't even find the strength to talk to my husband.I have a kid of my own too.
My hubby finds this very irritating that she does this and I just do not know how to handle this problem.I feel so used by my friend.
I love kids But I need my space too.
She has a strategy,she will tell me before hand that next day she has to go shopping for her home and then she comes home the next day on the pretext of borrowing something from me telling me that she needs to go shopping that day and then she suddenly rings me up during lunch and tells me she needs to leave her kid with me.(She lives with her inlaws).
I simply don't get it.
How do I handle this issue?????
She is a nice person,a good friend ,and I am also aware of the fact that everybody will have their positives and negatives,but sometimes you have to ignore,but this is interfering with my everyday life.She is very aggressive.
Please please help..... Ariana replied. Hey Sarika,everyone has a life,you can't keep taking things on when you have enough on your plate.You have your own husband and child to care for and you are unable to give them 100 percent because of someone else? It's not being cruel to say you are unable to watch her child,you have to stand up for yourself. There's nothing wrong with helping someone out,but your friend has made a habit of it,because you let her.Tell her you're busy,and you mentioned that she lives with her in-laws so why can't they watch her child? Rashmi replied. JUST TELL HER...no i can't watch u'r baby today as i need to get some stuff done...or i need to go out myself. Listen..u need to put u'r foot down.....she will keep doing it till u say no....what loss is it to her to tell u all the time. If she is u'r best friend she should not to insensitive to u'r feelings and as u say that u drop hints but she doesn't get it...then why r u feeling guilty of saying no to her.
Just harden u'r heart...STOP feeling bad...and say NO...have 5 diffrent excuses ready.....SAY NO....she can't leave her child if u say u r busy today..just say maybe next time. ss replied. There is more to this issue/relationship between you & your friend which you are not telling..Does she actually pay you for babysitting her baby?..
Please tell everything clearly about everything between you & her & then we can go forward Vipin replied. Sarika,
Just give her the taste of her own tea. One day, suddenly you go to her house and leave your kid with her for 2 hours.
If she still doesn't mend her ways then lie to her and tell her that even you need to go somewhere.