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I have married just 6 months ago and share a good married life. My problems have started after my school going 17 year old cousin sister have started flirting with my husband. She frequently visits our house on one pretext or the other and would often sit close to him, put her hands around him, drink water from his used glass and shakes his hand for unusually long durations.
My husband insists that there is nothing wrong going on but my suspicious mind tells me something else.
Actually, she is younger and sexier than me. She also has bigger bust than me and often exploits her assets by showing her cleavage to my husband.
How do I get rid of her?
RADHA replied. KAVYA,
IT IS TIME TO TAKE ACTION BUT WISELY.
INSTEAD OF TALKING TO UR HUSBAND OR UR COUSIN TALK TO UR MOM.AS U R NEWLY MARRIED,U MOM CAN SOMETIME COME OVER UR PLACE, CALL UR MOM WHEN UR COUSIN IS THERE N LET HER SEE ALL THE DRAMA HERSELF NO MOTHER WILL ACCEPT A SOUTEN IN HER BABY' S LIFE N LEAVE IT ON HER SHE CAN TALK DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY TO UR AUNT OR UNCLE , N THIS WAY UR COUSIN WILL GET 2 HEAR FROM HER PARENTS THEREBY NOT INVOVLING U N UR HUBBY N U NOT BEING RUDE TOO.DO TELL ME THE PROGRESS .I' LL WAIT FOR UR REPLY Nan replied. I hv gone same thing in my life like u r going. In my life my husband and my younger sister had an physical affair. i allowed my sister to stay with me during my pregnancy. And she used to like my husband and they used to talk sometime flirtish way but i always thought its just jija-sali talks. but destiny was different and my life got hell. What to do. Now god grace there affair as well as physical affair finish. But SAD TO SAY I LOST MY YOUNGER SISTER. SHE IS NOW DEAD TO ME.
Xena replied. what else you need lady? have fun, have a threesome, trust me it's going to make your hubby happy and would also let you explore your sexuality..good luck !!! d replied. hey i understand how u feel.before something untoward happens u need to put an end to this. She is not a kid. She is 17.
Of course men do like all the attention they get from women be it when married or single.There are also chances of having affairs.Tell her not to visit u and u are newly married and need to spend time with your hubby.even though your hubby maybe right for the moment but chances are there he might get interestd in your cousin.Tell her parents and warn her. When she comes right in front of your hubby tell her not to sit close to ur hubby . Once or twice he might object but dont bother and snub her.Do something right now then regret later.Best of luck. post back. I see.. replied. You need to get rid of her no doubt..I have been through this nonsense & let me tell you one advice.It is good for everybody ( you , your husband & that cousin) to get rid of that cousin of yours from your life...There is no use in trying to get thinggs back to normal AFTER something HAS happened!..So think clearly & do whatever is needed to stop her from coming to your house..talk to her parents or if that is not a good idea then do something else..Mkae her feel shamefull..Next tiem when her cleavage is shown or seen..call her aside & tell her strictly to dress up properly & also tell her not to touch other men while talking etc.,..she might feel ashamed & will never come to your home...goodluck Advicer replied. Hey Kavya,
I can understand your plight. It happens with most couples,esp when wife feels that either cousin/niece is getting too close with her hubby and trying to show that xtra enthusiasum. It happens with husbands also when guys start getting close to his wife and takes them for a drive etc.. What you need to understand is, are they getting too physical? like touching eachother too often,whispering into ears, calling regularly for no reason and trying to hide in front of you. If your answer for all the above is yes, then sternly warn both of them, telling them that it is not decent for either of them to behave this way. There are also chances that they might be really social, nothing is happening and your suspecting them. Be wise enough to assess the situation and react, don't mess up your newly married life for no reason.
Cheers!
Advicer.