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He won't leave me alone

I am needing some advice from anyone and everyone that has some input.

I am a having a serious problem.
I am married to a wonderful man and we've been married for 8 years. We have children and I am a housewife.

There is a UPS driver that delivers in my neighborhood on an almost daily basis. I hardly have deliveries anymore, but for a while,instead of going to the store with the children, I chose to stay home, stay out of the heat and have the things we wanted delivered.

This delivery guy has been making advances to me. I told him several times I am happily married, I told him I am not interested. He keeps pursuing me. One time he even told me he had an erection everytime he came to my door.

This UPS driver doesn't even wear his name tag, I suppose it's because he wants to be sneaky.

Now, when he delivers to my house and I see him coming, I just don't answer the door. I am so ashamed and I am beginning to feel nervous.

I feel embarrased and I want to stop this from continuing.

Please give me advice on what I should do.
Should I tell my husband? I don't know what to do...

Just for the record, I am a simple, respectful, modest dressing Indian housewife...I don't show off my body, I am always taking care of myself and my children.

PLEASE Help me my friends, I need advice...and fast.

Thanks in advance!
Smita anika replied. If this problem is still going on...u need to call UPS ASAP. This is America....u can complain and u'r complain will be heard. Call UPS and tell them where u live , the have a schedule of who dilevers where...so they can track this guy. Also tell them u want to be anonymus.....so that he doesn't come knocking on u'r door. No man...Indian or American has the right to force his attentions on you.
This is called sexual abuse here...and people here take it v. seriously.
Pls take action. amit replied. Hi Smita,

How are you doing these days, your UPS guy problem is solved ? You have posted your message in too many boards simultaneously ??!! Good luck, take care of yourself and your kids. Nitya replied. Smitha,

Don;t worry..Don;t hide it from your husband. The more you think about it the longer he will keep doing this.. So don't waste your time thinking about this and tell your husband ASAP. UPS guy might be American, isn't he? don;t you know these fellas? They change their girls as if they change the dress. so its your duty to tell your husband.. He won't misunderstand you. Tell him this guy is troubling me. Or you can very well call 911 if he tries to do something, ok?

And, above all, UPS guys are supposed to wear their name tags.. Its the law..Not only UPS guys, even FED-EX or USPS or whatever..

Good Luck!

Bye