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Dear friends,i have been living in USA since more than 5 years.I have a wonderful life here..few good friends,my privacy from in-laws and above all a lovely,understanding husband who loves me a lot.
His parents have been bad to me in the past but he understands my situation and tried his best to keep me away from such tensions.
The problem is this...maybe it's all in my head but my head will explode with this stress someday.
I persuaded/convinced my hubby to get into MBA here in USA.We were doing alright before this in a simple software job.His salary was about 60k which would have been a problem later on when we would have our family here...because of all this we decided upon him getting an MBA.
He got admission into a top 10 Business school and we are now in our second year.He has been offered a very big salary and very good job in New York.
Now to tell you the truth friends,i am very happy for him but i feel so so insecure all of a sudden.
He is going to be earning so much,almost 3 times of what he earned before and in 4-5 years he could be in one of the highest posts in the company.All this is making me damn insecure.I feel he will change...that all this success and money in a short time at a young age will go to his head.
If this was his decision i would'nt care as i would think it was inevitable,but the decision was mine that he do MBA,I wanted all this out of greed maybe..and now i donno what to do friends.I FEEL GUILTY!
The fact that my relations with his family are nad also makes me feel insecure.I feel in a few years my hubby will be in such a position that i will be nothing for him and that i will just have to start obeying whatever he wants and whatever they want.
I feel that one day i will miss my simple and happy life and will get stuck in the wealthy unhappy life.He is going to remain very busy so that adds to my stress.He had all the time in the world for me before and our life was perfect.
I have told him about my fears and he laughs it off.He says when we have a family we will need more money etc and he says he will get a smaller job later.
I am going crazy friends,please help me.
Thanks,
Zanu
fd replied. dear just relax...u are thinking a lot ...and it pshycology ....u know when we want something in life and when that thing actually happens to u...u have a sense of insecurity towards lossing it or something bad realted to it.

U are suffering from the same. If ur husband is good and loving , beleive me no one can change him. And once u start ur family u too will be busy with the kids.

Well even my husband is in software and he hardly has time for me. Its not howmuch time u spend with ur husband. After some time, what matters is the quality of time u spend with him.

Keep ur self engage and be happy. Chakrika replied. Are you having a kid.If not try for one now and have a kid.So that you and your kid will become his immediate family and he wont think of his parents as his immediae family.(In case if that is your fear).Moreever you will start concentrating on your kid and you will be eeling secure enough.I dont think love changes when money comes.