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Dear Parents,
Recently I had a terrible experience with a creche called Baby' s Day Out wherein they hit my 4 year old son for a small reason that is passing motion in his pants.This chreche is located in Basvanagar behind HAL Helicopter division.My child has sufferred emotionally because of this matter and he is now so scared to pass motion.We are providing him lot of emotional support for him to come out of this shock and frightness.
I request all parents to please be aware of this chreche.This chreche is not even an officialy registered chreche or a day care.I think this is the main reason why they have no concern for kids in the chreche and ill-treated my kid as shabbily as she liked.
I would also request parents to come together and we create a forum exclusively for chreche related information in Bangalore like the do' s and dont' s while looking out for a chreche and how important it is for a chreche to be registered under the government law and the security factor and what actions can we take against chreche who treats kids in this ill manner.

When we put our kids to school we check 101 things first and most important being weather is it having the ICSE or CBSE curriculam.As a parent now I think we should also start checking weather a creche is registered under certain goverment body which inturn binds the creche to follow certain safety and security standards.

Making parents aware of these things will inturn help the parents to choose a safe place for their kids to be in during office hours. Durba replied. Hi All
I send my child to the â€˜Babyâ€™s Day Outâ€™ crÃ¨che.
I have had a very positive experience with this crÃ¨che and my child has been going there for the last 2 years. I am not denying Rashmiâ€™s experience or hurt feelings but I agree with â€˜Anonymousâ€™ on the issue of negative publicity. I think this has gone a little too far.
Rashmi, you have been continuously posting these messages across boards since more than 3 weeks. You have yourself acknowledged me on another post but I do not know any parent called Rashmi so it is obvious you are not using your real name. I wonder why! Also, I can understand your feelings of hurt and trying to share the experience once but you have been carrying on a campaign against this crÃ¨che â€¦why? Your child was there for 3 years since he was a baby â€¦did he never ever pass motion then â€¦ I wonder who gave toilet training to your baby? You yourself have said in a previous post that â€˜I considered the lady like my motherâ€™ and now you are saying â€˜the crÃ¨che is not even registeredâ€™. How come you were not bothered about such issues for the last 3 years and you are bringing it up now. If you were happy with the place for the last 3 years, why are you doing a propaganda against it now? You have shared your thoughts and now why canâ€™t you let it rest! Even if this incident happened, have you forgotten all the good things your child got from this crÃ¨che for the last 3 years. I am honestly wondering why you are doing this.
Arpita, I send my child to this place since the last two years and I am very happy with the place. It is not at all commercial. It is almost like leaving your child with a distant aunt and homely care is something you can count on. They keep small babies. I would suggest you check out the place yourself and decide instead of going by anybodyâ€™s (even my ) words.
Meghna replied. Hi,

Is Anonymous the same person that Rashmi is talking about?

Well looking at both the posts it looks like Rashmi has had a certain bad experience about this creche and definately thers no denying that one needs to be careful while choosing a creche.

More important point to note in a creche selection is check the attendants and children ratio coz these issues arise since the ladies have too many kids to look at and cant spend too much time on a single child and eventually vent out their frustration on the child.

But Rashmi atleast your kid is old enough to tell you, what if these things happen to a child who is too small to even speak.

Forget creche, I was spending heavily on a main who was full time with me and used to hit my kid behind us. And mine was too small to even talk.... she would jsut cry too much when i wud come home nad cling to me.

One day a neighbour told me abt this and then i kept a close watch and gave surprise visits at home nad came to know of this.

Meghna Anonymous replied. Rashmi,
This post seems like its aimed only at defaming someone. Its very sad that you had to resort to such tactics. If you have had some disagreements with this person, you can very well pull out your kid and leave it at that. Resorting to negative publicity shows you in as much bad light..

I have a child at this day care too, and have had no such experience. I have left my name anonymous intentionally, since i might know you in person.. Before making such tall comments on trust and stuff, you should probably have some regard for a person who looked after your child for 3 years....
Arpita replied. hi Rashmi,
thanx for the infrmation u have provided. i stay in maruthi nagar which is near to Basvanagar behind HAL and i was serching for day care around the same area. now i will take care on what u have posted in ur message. if u need any help from me pls. feel free to contact me on double nine double zero two six eight five nine six. (after june because i am not in bangalore till june )

2008-04-18

Name: Durba
Subject:

Re: Posts on Baby´ s Day Out creche

Hi All
I send my child to the â€˜Babyâ€™s Day Outâ€™ crÃ¨che.
I have had a very positive experience with this crÃ¨che and my child has been going there for the last 2 years. I am not denying Rashmiâ€™s experience or hurt feelings but I agree with â€˜Anonymousâ€™ on the issue of negative publicity. I think this has gone a little too far.
Rashmi, you have been continuously posting these messages across boards since more than 3 weeks. You have yourself acknowledged me on another post but I do not know any parent called Rashmi so it is obvious you are not using your real name. I wonder why! Also, I can understand your feelings of hurt and trying to share the experience once but you have been carrying on a campaign against this crÃ¨che â€¦why? Your child was there for 3 years since he was a baby â€¦did he never ever pass motion then â€¦ I wonder who gave toilet training to your baby? You yourself have said in a previous post that â€˜I considered the lady like my motherâ€™ and now you are saying â€˜the crÃ¨che is not even registeredâ€™. How come you were not bothered about such issues for the last 3 years and you are bringing it up now. If you were happy with the place for the last 3 years, why are you doing a propaganda against it now? You have shared your thoughts and now why canâ€™t you let it rest! Even if this incident happened, have you forgotten all the good things your child got from this crÃ¨che for the last 3 years. I am honestly wondering why you are doing this.
Arpita, I send my child to this place since the last two years and I am very happy with the place. It is not at all commercial. It is almost like leaving your child with a distant aunt and homely care is something you can count on. They keep small babies. I would suggest you check out the place yourself and decide instead of going by anybodyâ€™s (even my ) words.

2008-04-18

Name: Rashmi
Subject:

Day Care Center Bangalore - Be Aware

Durba,

De-famation should be the last thing in the mind of anyone on this case.We are talking about a child who has been hit by the chreche owner. please don´ t put money or business on priority before a child´ s mental and emotional situation.For me it is more of taking legal action now against this chreche for what they have done to my child.
Please note the reason why I have raised the registration point now is because after this incident has happened I have realised how important it is for a chreche to be registered under a law so that proper safety and security measures are taking for all kids.For you maybe since it is another kid you will tend to forget this issue and consider it as just one incident that has happened in bangalore.But for me as a parent this is just not one issue which can be overlooked.It is pathetic if a parent consider such incidents as a small matter and ignore it.this is one main reason why many teenager nowadays hide things from parents because they just tend to forget emotional things that may have affetced them negatively in a deep manner.As a parent I will not like any other parent to go through the same situation that my child has suffered.Not alone me their are other kids also who has been hit because of her ill-temper.

My request to all parents is to please spread this awareness to other parent community.

2008-04-18

Name: Meghna
Subject:

Re: Anonymous

Hi,

Is Anonymous the same person that Rashmi is talking about?

Well looking at both the posts it looks like Rashmi has had a certain bad experience about this creche and definately thers no denying that one needs to be careful while choosing a creche.

More important point to note in a creche selection is check the attendants and children ratio coz these issues arise since the ladies have too many kids to look at and cant spend too much time on a single child and eventually vent out their frustration on the child.

But Rashmi atleast your kid is old enough to tell you, what if these things happen to a child who is too small to even speak.

Forget creche, I was spending heavily on a main who was full time with me and used to hit my kid behind us. And mine was too small to even talk.... she would jsut cry too much when i wud come home nad cling to me.

One day a neighbour told me abt this and then i kept a close watch and gave surprise visits at home nad came to know of this.

Meghna

2008-04-18

Name: Rashmi
Subject:

Day Care Center Bangalore - Be Aware

Hi Meghana,

If it was the maids I would have spoken to them directly and to the owner and ensure the maid has been removed from the chreche.But this has been done by the chreche owner a 56 year old lady.What I feel is you need to talk to your kids on a daily basis about the day´ s activity.And encourage them to receite all the days events.Ofcourse if your kid is very small he/she may not be able to speak words propoerly,at that point of time like you writely said the kids behaviour and health will detoriate.That is when you will come to know if anything is wrong.

2008-04-18

Name: Durba
Subject:

A few pointers about day care and maids

Meghana,

I completely agree with you that as parents we have to be extremely vigilant and careful when leaving the child at a day care or with a maid. I have had an experience when I discovered that my 2 year old child was being exposed to adult content on tv. Thanks to my maid. You can imagine the shock. I have tried different modes of day care since the last 4 years and now feel that day cares are better than maids as there is safety in numbers. Your child is unlikely to be ill treated or molested (yes, that also happens) with so many people around.

Based on my experience, here are a few pointers:
- Talk to your child every day. Ask small things but do not lead the child asking if he was hit or scolded.
- If he complains, take it seriously but prod a little asking why he was scolded. Sometimes, it can be nothing and the child may be making excuses but sometimes it can be serious.
- Observe non-verbal behavior. Children tend to emulate what they see.
- If he is very unhappy with the person even after a very long time, reconsider your decision about the place or person. Children have â€˜badâ€™ and â€˜goodâ€™ phases with babysitters but I am talking about prolonged (more than a few months) tantrums about the place or person. There may be something wrong.
- Most important, trust your instincts. If something doesnâ€™t feel right, look out for other options. Donâ€™t take chances.

2008-04-16

Name: Anonymous
Subject:

Absolutely untrue

Rashmi,
This post seems like its aimed only at defaming someone. Its very sad that you had to resort to such tactics. If you have had some disagreements with this person, you can very well pull out your kid and leave it at that. Resorting to negative publicity shows you in as much bad light..

I have a child at this day care too, and have had no such experience. I have left my name anonymous intentionally, since i might know you in person.. Before making such tall comments on trust and stuff, you should probably have some regard for a person who looked after your child for 3 years....

2008-04-15

Name: Arpita
Subject:

I agree with u

hi Rashmi,
thanx for the infrmation u have provided. i stay in maruthi nagar which is near to Basvanagar behind HAL and i was serching for day care around the same area. now i will take care on what u have posted in ur message. if u need any help from me pls. feel free to contact me on double nine double zero two six eight five nine six. (after june because i am not in bangalore till june )

2008-04-18

Name: Rashmi
Subject:

Day Care Center Bangalore - Be Aware

Hi Arpita,

Thank you for your message.I have seen many messages going up and down some against and some for this issue.I as a parent who have experienced this matter have brought up this issue to make other parents aware of how kids are treated in this creche.As a matter of fact it was not along my kid who was beaten up,their has been instances of smaller kids also being beaten up.And the fact has been validated by people who are in the creche.What are parents talking about de-fame a creche.And this is not he only incident that has happened.They have even gone to the extend of making a regular practise of empyting my kids tiffin while he ate only little.The rest of the food was thrown out or biscutis kept away.And than when we asked they always said that he finished everything.Surprisingly he never put on weight and was falling sick every month.After this incident happened we came to know that she used to throw the food so that the tiffin box always was empty.And made us think that he always ate his food.

All these 3 years we trusted her and kept our child in that chreche.We catered to any demand that the owner had interms of picking her up at 11:00 in the night from the railway station and droppig her to her house,taking her for her medical checkup etc.We considered her like our own grandmother.I am posting this message now because of the way my child has been treated in this creche.I would want to make all new parents aware of such situations and to please double check before you put your kids in chreche.My kid has gone through this torture.Unless a parent experiences this they will not understand how hurt I am.Arpita and Meghana thank you so much for coming forward to join me in spreading awareness among parents on such matters and on such creche.

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