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You child sounds okey, if she can participate in all those activities I do not see any problem with her. She will get used to socializing with her friends and other people when she gets a little older.

Shyness is wrong if, shyness is the manifestation of inner problems, not inner peace. This child is more than shy, he withdraws. He avoids eye-to-eye contact and has a lot of behavioral problems. People are not comfortable in his presence. When you delve into this little person, you discover he operates from anger and fear instead of peace and trust. When you delve deeper, you often find he has a lot to be angry about.
Some children hide behind the shy label so they don' t have to reveal a self they don' t like. It' s safer not to show anything, so they retreat into a protective shell. The \" shy\" label becomes an excuse for not developing social skills and a reason for not exercising them. The unmotivated child can use \" shy\" as a defense against trying harder and an excuse for staying at the same level of skill development. For these children, shyness is a handicap, reinforcing their weak self-esteem. To cure the shyness, you must build up the self-esteem.

In the first place, ' Shyness' is not wrong.Many shy children have a solid self-concept. They have an inner peace that shines.A shy child with healthy self- worth makes eye-to-eye contact, is polite, and seems happy with herself. She is just quiet. Her behavior is generally good she is a nice child to be around, and people are comfortable in her presence. Some \" shy\" children are deep-thinking and cautious. They are slow to warm up to strangers. They study that person to see if the relationship is worth the effort. Shy children often have such inner peace that their shyness is one way of protecting it.