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My daughter who is 10 yrs old is good at studies, also excel well in writing, reciting poems, singing and dance. But she always hesitate to participate in Stage programmes. Neither does she go out and join her friends in the neighbourhood. She is too shy. Please help me in this. Namita replied. She needs a lil confidence and encouragement. Make her believe in herself, tell her that she can do it. Maybe she is scared or thinks she won't be able to do it properly. Talk her into participating into some things. NN replied. If she does not go out on herself then you go out and make her mix up with the kids in the neighborhood in that way she will open up a bit and it would help her to make friends in the school too. NN replied. Make her take part in all the activities and keep encouraging her to do well and not think about the people or anything. She would eventually get over her stage fear or at least it will reduce with more time. NA replied. There are many ways you can help your child to get over her stage fright. Encourage her to take part in different competitions and support her through out. Search for things that will help her distract herself from the crowd. NN replied. Stage fright is very common and the only way to overcome it is to perform on the stage so encourage her to perform and with time she will get used to it and will lose her fear too. And about shyness, it will also go with time. Amol replied. Hello Divya,
some people will feel shy and it must be removed when they are in childhood only you have to make them to participate in all events though they win or lose they have to remove their fear from them.I wish you would do. No Name replied. Hi Divya,
So you were facing problem from her shyness of your kid.You need to give moral support to her so that she will participate in all events though she win or lose it.You need to move her with support as friend. Madhu replied. Hi Divya,
Kids do not try to expose so easily.They need to be pushed from back for some times and if once they have done on stage then for next time they will do it on their own.So that all the hesitation parts would be lost. Ajay replied. Hello divya,
Your daughter was blessed with lot of talent.But she had some stage fear you need to help her to get out of it because when ever she lost it then only she can perform on stage and go forward in her life. XX replied. Hello Divya,
Why do you think like that your kid is very talented but she has some fear to face the people. Let remove that everything will be fine.You just make her to face in front your family members. Priya replied. Hi , Divya my son was also very shy when he was at this age, just help your daughter to take her own right decisions, boost and appreciate her talents have more conversation with her so that you can find her reason of fear and give her importance. Saloni replied. hi , your daughter is a very shy person.

Try to make her speak at home in a way that its stage performance . then improve by making her stand in front of mirror and of the same. slowly it will improve
heeral replied. hi , your daughter is a very shy person. you need to take a lot of time explaining her certain things. let her do what she wants and then only she would listen to you! You must give her her space and she would develop gradually. Abhi replied. encourage kids to interact to overcome shyness. Sahi replied. Eventually, most children who are shy learn to conquer their tendency. Parents have to gently guide or direct their children into social situations in which they can learn to successfully interact.
varsha tyagi replied. Your daughter certainly seems very capable. There isnt anything wrong in being shy! Encourage her gently to participate in programs. Let her participate in grp events first and then you can think of solo participation. My kid was extremely shy too with the family an teachers encourging him, he is way better now.
timsy replied. Hi Divya,

Increase your communication with your child. Spend time with your children by playing with them, reading stories to them on the bedtime. Children whose feelings are accepted and supported by their parents tend to be much more ‘emotionally literate’, confident and secure. Hope this would help Jasmin replied. You child sounds okey, if she can participate in all those activities I do not see any problem with her. She will get used to socializing with her friends and other people when she gets a little older. Kirti replied. Shyness is wrong if, shyness is the manifestation of inner problems, not inner peace. This child is more than shy, he withdraws. He avoids eye-to-eye contact and has a lot of behavioral problems. People are not comfortable in his presence. When you delve into this little person, you discover he operates from anger and fear instead of peace and trust. When you delve deeper, you often find he has a lot to be angry about.
Some children hide behind the shy label so they don' t have to reveal a self they don' t like. It' s safer not to show anything, so they retreat into a protective shell. The \" shy\" label becomes an excuse for not developing social skills and a reason for not exercising them. The unmotivated child can use \" shy\" as a defense against trying harder and an excuse for staying at the same level of skill development. For these children, shyness is a handicap, reinforcing their weak self-esteem. To cure the shyness, you must build up the self-esteem. Aditi replied. In the first place, ' Shyness' is not wrong.Many shy children have a solid self-concept. They have an inner peace that shines.A shy child with healthy self- worth makes eye-to-eye contact, is polite, and seems happy with herself. She is just quiet. Her behavior is generally good she is a nice child to be around, and people are comfortable in her presence. Some \" shy\" children are deep-thinking and cautious. They are slow to warm up to strangers. They study that person to see if the relationship is worth the effort. Shy children often have such inner peace that their shyness is one way of protecting it.