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My son who is 6 yrs old does not mingle with his friends and is very shy? He does not participate in any programmes too. What to do? suchi replied. hello,
as you said your son is shy and he is shy the reason is he does not have many friends he has only his limited friend circle and surely this friend circle is also shy friends, so try to boost him make a large friend circle. linta replied. hello,
i suggest you, you should remove time for him and try to mix up with other kids in his class or like garden friends, this shy type kides mix up with other kids so fast but they need some time. sureka replied. hi,
your son need your and family support as well as need motivation nothing else, as you mentioned he talks very less with friends so there is way to get him perform and motivate, boost him. it will definately helpful for him. shilpa replied. hello,
if you want to reduce your son's shyness then help him to make a new friends other than school friends. take him to garden or join some summer camp there he will be feel more free and comfotable. yatika replied. hello snisha,
i suggest you, you should try to improve his confidence level, you try to connect with different friends and relatives take him with you at relatives home for sometimes. it will help him to mix up. ujawal replied. hi ,
snisha just keep in mind that don't force to your son for do anything like don't force him to talk with everyone as you mentioned he is shy, so slowly slowly try to improve his confidence level. jenny replied. hello,
is your son play with his other friends? if answer is yes then dont worry at all its a not big issue, it means he is interested to talk with known people only as per time he will try to talk to other person too. namita replied. hi snisha,
its not a serious issue, many times kids are not ready to talk with every person they feel shy but as per they grow this shyness slowely slowely come down and they will talk with everyone. Krutika replied. You should talk to his teacher and tell her that if he does not participate by himself then make him participate forcefully in this way when he will start enjoying it he will start thinking about participating in more things. Krushik replied. If he does not play with his friends on his own then you take him to the ground and make him play with them and for school tell his teacher to make him participate in different things to build his confidence. NN replied. Don't force him to do anything. Some people are just shy and like being all by themselves and i don't see any harm in that. He will play with them or talk to them when he wants to or when he feels like doing it. Ritu replied. Your kid needs motivation and support nothing else. As you said he does not talk to anyone much and likes being alone so the only way to get him to perform is to motivate him, tell him that he can do it if her tries. NN replied. In order to reduce your son's shyness you should help him make more friends. I have seen that shy people usually open up a lot when they make friends and when are the comfortable with them. See what can you do as a parent. Purvi replied. Give your son some time to mix up with other kids in his school. Some kids mix up with other kids fast but then some kids need time and effort so give him some time and then talk to his teacher is nothing still changes. Ashna replied. She is shy maybe because she does not have many friends and that can also be the reason for her not taking part in any programmes. Help her make friends and maybe they she will start opening up to everyone. NN replied. She is still quite small so its natural for her not to mix up with others that easily. As time passes and she grows up she will get used to the people around her and then her shyness would eventually decrease. NN replied. Ask your daughter that is she afraid of anything or is there anything that she fears as it could be the reason behind her being shy and it would be better if you talk to her about it so that you can help her. No Name replied. You should look for ways by which you will be able to get your daughter open up to everyone. Once she finds ways to open up to other kids or other people she will get the confidence to participate on stage too. NN replied. Maybe your child is not shy but has stage fear. A lot of kids prefer not being on the stage as they are not comfortable with people staring at them as they are doing something. You will have to encourage her. Care replied. Hello Snisha,
It will be very enduring to you i can understand it will be very trouble to you only and you have to give him support and it will be done also and it is time taking process you need to hold patience for some time.