iam 6 months pregnant and my hubby just hangs out with friends.though his friends were out for few days now their are back,so whenever their are in city my hubby just hang out with them on saturday and sunday giving me very little time .i have to beg for quality of time from him and even if he spend some time with me i find him getting bore,though i enjoy each and every moment.whereas when he is with his friends he enjoy himself alot.iam not complaining,he has the right to enjoy his life but i feel very upset and i feel as if iam being used.i do all the cooking ,washing ..etc and when i need him he leaves me alone .right from the day of marriage i feel iam very alone.whenever he comes home from work he locks himself in his home and sit on computer for hours and i on the other side leave all my household work and run to provide him water and tea etc....he just forget about the world when hes on computerand when he comes out we have dinner, chat for few hours and go to sleep.iam bored by this life.a romanceless life.And on saturday and sunday hes with his friends.i had explained him thousand of times about my problem but he will be nice for 2-3 days and again .i sometime feel like leaving him but where will i go with my unborn baby and i dont want to be burden for my parents as their are financially weak and i had not yet completed my graduation,so no chances of working.is this my life,iam fedup of it and along with it i even have problems with my in-laws,but my hubby support me in this.
many people post their problem here,some say their wife is the problem ,some say their in-laws and some say their hubby.iam surpised why cant we find life of our own choice.life which suits us.hubby who is like us and think like us,inlaws who adjust us etc..
anyhow ,can any one give me agood advice how to keep myself busy ignoring my hubby?or any other ideas.explaining or talking to him is waste.
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iam 6 months pregnant and my hubby just hangs out with friends.though his friends were out for few days now their are back,so whenever their are in city my hubby just hang out with them on saturday and sunday giving me very little time .i have to beg for quality of time from him and even if he spend some time with me i find him getting bore,though i enjoy each and every moment.whereas when he is with his friends he enjoy himself alot.iam not complaining,he has the right to enjoy his life but i feel very upset and i feel as if iam being used.i do all the cooking ,washing ..etc and when i need him he leaves me alone .right from the day of marriage i feel iam very alone.whenever he comes home from work he locks himself in his home and sit on computer for hours and i on the other side leave all my household work and run to provide him water and tea etc....he just forget about the world when hes on computerand when he comes out we have dinner, chat for few hours and go to sleep.iam bored by this life.a romanceless life.And on saturday and sunday hes with his friends.i had explained him thousand of times about my problem but he will be nice for 2-3 days and again .i sometime feel like leaving him but where will i go with my unborn baby and i dont want to be burden for my parents as their are financially weak and i had not yet completed my graduation,so no chances of working.is this my life,iam fedup of it and along with it i even have problems with my in-laws,but my hubby support me in this.
many people post their problem here,some say their wife is the problem ,some say their in-laws and some say their hubby.iam surpised why cant we find life of our own choice.life which suits us.hubby who is like us and think like us,inlaws who adjust us etc..
anyhow ,can any one give me agood advice how to keep myself busy ignoring my hubby?or any other ideas.explaining or talking to him is waste.
xxxx replied. Hey,
This problem is in lot of families and men are like that.But one thing he can't hang out with his frinds throught of his life.Because they do get married and they will have babys.That time they may not spend time with your husband.So please be patient and also try say to him he ur bored and u need his time.My siciere advise finish your studies and try to get job even after the baby born.Once the baby born i don't think you get any time to think about your husband but at the same time you may get different issue with baby that you need to take her of the baby all the time .So please finish the studies and try to get the job.Once baby get 11/2 years you can send baby to some take care and you can start working.That time may be your husband may beg for your time.Have fun
Poonam Prem replied. Hi,
am am too and was in the same boat during pregnancy...u know my hubby went out of station when i delivered...he said his business is bigger for him rather than me..:-( can anyones's story be so sad..though he came the same day after delivery...i had a baby boy a very cutei pie kind of...touchwood !! but he came to the room i was kept u know i had a C- Section delivery he never asked me how i felt and never told me anything abt his own baby instead his words were : i am tensed of the 50,000/- which his office boy was suppose to bring from somewhere...see how mean i wud say...one's wife lying with pain after delivering his baby see wht question did he come and ask??????? i will be ur friend ....and we can always share things and find solution for the same...dont worry once ur child comes to ur life u will feel like time going so fast...
i suggest why dont we make a group of friends and share things so that we are felt free in heart. u know discussing things with friends make our hear lighter...
SONYA replied. You are not alone. This is what we call
loneliness.
I have face this. And, I think I am still
facing this....But, I don't let it bother
me.
There is nothing wrong with your marriage
don't let your feelings think anything
different. He is just having fun. He
can't have fun all the time, right?
beside.....you are carrying his baby.
Once he see the baby, he is not going
to go anywhere.
In the meantime: do you like chatting?
or come here more often...help answer a
few questions here and there.---
what about yoga?---or reading?
fd replied. yeah sure....i will be definately be ur freind.
and we can update eachother too...with how it is working with our life....
fd replied. well dear,
i too face the same problem that i face for attention from my hubby, we are staying abroad and i a place where i m all alone , though i m having a kid and its five years of marriage. My husband is good man but same, he dosenot give me attention. he is too busy with his work and when he comes home he is with his laptop....we have dinner and i have to beg him to sit with me to talk, i have to ask him to tell me I love u....but he takes no initiative in making me feel special. I wait for him the whole day...passing time with my daughter....cooking, cleaning, laundry....just like a maid....and in return i dont get a attention. I starve for physical as well as emotional attention. Though we have physical relation on saturday(like a ritual) but not because he wants me....well i think, husbands take wife for granted....thats the bottom line....and we have to accept that.
Now for the solution, if u want to be happy, u have to lower ur expectation or u will remain unhappy....u too engage urself. Once ur hubby come, dont be a donkey slogging for him,,,,take ur time for making tea...show that u have ur life and u too are busy....if he is in the room, let him be.....u too get busy by doing some embroidery (after doing ur house chores) watch ur favrourite serials, painting....why long for him to come beside u....write diary,read novels, read baby books....do all these especially when ur husband is free....and never then stop him to go to his freinds....believe me....he will feel the diffrence and will come back to u for attention.....
Be happy, enjoy ur pregnancy days....make nice dishes u like and get fat and healthy.
ur friend.....let me know whether u liked my idea or not.
2006-12-11
#1
Name: xxxx Subject: best of luck
Hey,
This problem is in lot of families and men are like that.But one thing he can't hang out with his frinds throught of his life.Because they do get married and they will have babys.That time they may not spend time with your husband.So please be patient and also try say to him he ur bored and u need his time.My siciere advise finish your studies and try to get job even after the baby born.Once the baby born i don't think you get any time to think about your husband but at the same time you may get different issue with baby that you need to take her of the baby all the time .So please finish the studies and try to get the job.Once baby get 11/2 years you can send baby to some take care and you can start working.That time may be your husband may beg for your time.Have fun
2006-12-11
#2
Name: Poonam Prem Subject: Friends
Hi,
am am too and was in the same boat during pregnancy...u know my hubby went out of station when i delivered...he said his business is bigger for him rather than me..:-( can anyones's story be so sad..though he came the same day after delivery...i had a baby boy a very cutei pie kind of...touchwood !! but he came to the room i was kept u know i had a C- Section delivery he never asked me how i felt and never told me anything abt his own baby instead his words were : i am tensed of the 50,000/- which his office boy was suppose to bring from somewhere...see how mean i wud say...one's wife lying with pain after delivering his baby see wht question did he come and ask??????? i will be ur friend ....and we can always share things and find solution for the same...dont worry once ur child comes to ur life u will feel like time going so fast...
i suggest why dont we make a group of friends and share things so that we are felt free in heart. u know discussing things with friends make our hear lighter...
2006-12-11
#3
Name: simplewife Subject: good idea
ponam ,i really like your suggestion but how can we make group of friends.
2006-12-11
#4
Name: SONYA Subject: well.............
You are not alone. This is what we call
loneliness.
I have face this. And, I think I am still
facing this....But, I don't let it bother
me.
There is nothing wrong with your marriage
don't let your feelings think anything
different. He is just having fun. He
can't have fun all the time, right?
beside.....you are carrying his baby.
Once he see the baby, he is not going
to go anywhere.
In the meantime: do you like chatting?
or come here more often...help answer a
few questions here and there.---
what about yoga?---or reading?
2006-12-11
#5
Name: fd Subject: freinds
yeah sure....i will be definately be ur freind.
and we can update eachother too...with how it is working with our life....
2006-12-11
#6
Name: fd Subject: same problem
well dear,
i too face the same problem that i face for attention from my hubby, we are staying abroad and i a place where i m all alone , though i m having a kid and its five years of marriage. My husband is good man but same, he dosenot give me attention. he is too busy with his work and when he comes home he is with his laptop....we have dinner and i have to beg him to sit with me to talk, i have to ask him to tell me I love u....but he takes no initiative in making me feel special. I wait for him the whole day...passing time with my daughter....cooking, cleaning, laundry....just like a maid....and in return i dont get a attention. I starve for physical as well as emotional attention. Though we have physical relation on saturday(like a ritual) but not because he wants me....well i think, husbands take wife for granted....thats the bottom line....and we have to accept that.
Now for the solution, if u want to be happy, u have to lower ur expectation or u will remain unhappy....u too engage urself. Once ur hubby come, dont be a donkey slogging for him,,,,take ur time for making tea...show that u have ur life and u too are busy....if he is in the room, let him be.....u too get busy by doing some embroidery (after doing ur house chores) watch ur favrourite serials, painting....why long for him to come beside u....write diary,read novels, read baby books....do all these especially when ur husband is free....and never then stop him to go to his freinds....believe me....he will feel the diffrence and will come back to u for attention.....
Be happy, enjoy ur pregnancy days....make nice dishes u like and get fat and healthy.
ur friend.....let me know whether u liked my idea or not.
2006-12-11
#7
Name: simplewife Subject: like your idea
i really like your .i will try this.will you be my friend? so that atleast we can share our common feelings and find the solution as well as the result.
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