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I have posted the topic \";In-laws Problem - Please, Please help!!\";. Got only 3 replies- thanks to all of you !! I would highly appreciate if more people can give advice.

bin'there replied. I think all of us women married in the Indian culture receive this problem as our heritage and from my own experience, there is no cure. Only short term reliefs and best relief is --- to live your life , find ways to smile and ignore and learn to live with monster/s. In-laws are not going to die or go away at YOUR will and our own \";samskar\"; refrain us from being harsh and nasty ( as they are) and also from divorce. So we are stuck in the situation. I don't know about changing your husband either... they change right back the moment they see/hear or get letters from their family and then you feel even worse. I have ( and still am learning) learnt to accept that the person who has to change is \";I , me and myself\";. I am learning to be not so sensitive that every little thing in my life makes me feel so sad that I cannot enjoy what life has to offer. And belive me, you can have children amidst all this confusion. They definitely bring joy and meaning to your life. But yes, if you can put your foot down for not getting your in laws in the same country ...then by all means do not budge..victory will be yours in the end. As far as emotions of your husband for his family...forget about controlling those. They are mama's boys for ever....get your own:-) Neha replied. Hi Nidhi!

It's neha again. I just wanna say that u have to solve ur problem urself with courage & patience. all the people can give u only advice but it's u who have to practice it. It doesn't matter that 3 people gave u advice or 3000. It's only u who can solve ur problem. But for ur support i can only say that whenever u feel very lonely or depressed u can write ur feelings here & i'll try to reply u coz i open the net daily. But try to feel happy & write to me not with a sad mood but happy mood. We can be good net friends & with me for some time u will forget ur sorrows coz people say i'm very jolly person & i can make anyone laugh