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Hello,
I am a young woman, not yet married, still a virgin and I'm in my early twenties. I live in the U.S. with my parents. I think this is a touchy topic but here I go...

I don't date as my parents are fairly strict and anyways, if I date, I think in this society, many young women must be sexually active, I should not assume that, but in this society, it seems not to embrace such values as much as my parents do.

Dating an Indian boy in this area is close to impossible, but that is what I want; who I want to go out to movies and dinner with but it's difficult since our Indian Community here is small and everyone knows everyone. Here, it's a deal where if I were to go out with a boy, everyone in the community would hear of it unless he and I snuck out.

I'm a virgin and just wonder, is it even that precious or treasured nowadays? I mean, I have always been told by my dear Mommy that it is a gift. I always believe her, but from a different perspective, what is everyone else out there saying?

I feel a traditional Indian boy looking for a life partner would almost automatically prefer a girl as such.

Please, any comments, I would most appreciate.

also, for the record, I am planning to remain this way until marriage.

Thanks in advance.









Just advice! replied. In today's fast changing scenerio everyone's as confused as you are.... And I think everyone needs to do their own thing, and we should stop judging others by certain outdated 'moral' values. You should do what your heart says.... As far as I am concerned I remained a virgin till I got married. So many of my good friends were doing all sorts of things in college and I had ample opportunities but not the inclination to do it! For me true friendship, companionship and love came much before sex....
But the issue is not what I or others say, but how you feel about it!!!
All the best.