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iam a married woman living abroad.the problem with my inlaws is evertime they pester us to come back to india and live with them. whenever we call up india its the same question, when are you coming back?? it is very irritating, my husband is too scared to even say maybe some years latr, hes scared that he might start a big argument as he had promised earlier that he would come back soon. also me and my MIL dont get along, the usual story, even though she is so far off she doesnt miss the opportunity to pass comments when she can, also when we go to india to visit i get to hear all the things like how ciunning i am and and al that. i can imagine what would the state be if we moved in with them, she also a big emotional drama woman who cries and makes a big scene that we are still abroad evne though my husband had promised to return soon.this happens everytinme we visit them. my husband does not really want to go back but he cannot see all the crying, the fuss and the constant askuing by them.

my point is i dont think i can really stay with her, but then i dont dare tell this to my husband as he might think i am not ready at all to go india and might take immediate decison to go back.
i wouldnt mind going back if we are going to live in differnet houses. also my idea is to earn a little money which might be used for the future of our kids. obviously my inlaws are not bothered abt the future of our kids and such as anyway it not their responsiblity, they are not bothered if we have enough money for the future , they just wnat their mamas boy ie my husband to be with them all the time,
can anyone tell me how to tactfully handle this yet be able to stay away from my inlaws. AN replied. hi Neita!!
yes I can understand your problem coz I have the same problem with my ILs. first of all try to convince your husband by saying that for the sake of children's education or for making good money for the future you need to stay here.
second thing if he is not agreed with you, tell him that you want to live in separate houses, I don't think its a good idea to live in separate houses if you are living in the same state. but ask your hubby to live in a good state of india ( i suppose you are an indian) ,like bangalore etc.. which will be good for your children as well.
I don't think you should live with in laws if they don't understand you and creat tension.
but you must care about them where ever you live.