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my problem is my mil and youngest co-sister together make trouble to me. They both live together, i visit them once a year only. They live in my own house only. my mil is having her own house, but she rented that house. When i go there , i dont feel its my house, they both speek and do things, they dont even consider me as a human being, if i say something they see me as a cheap creature. I am the only child fr my parents.
Everybody wants to control me, even my younger co sister.My husband wants me to obey them, and asks me to talk over them even if they r not ready.my mils barks are not at all tolerable.i become sick and i am not able to take care my baby also.

After marriage my husband got a illness called cerebellum degenaration, now he is taking medicies fr this. i pray god daily to get him well soon. actually we r relatives, but its a love marrige. She accuses me fr this.last year only we came to know his illness, nobody in the family gave comfort to me or to my husband. they all started accusing me only.at that time i was having 3 months baby in my lap. i was moving to hospital and home daily. nobody comforted me. everybody stayed one step backward as a precaution even my mil also.
relatives look down upon me even though i am far better enough in all aspects. i have 2 elder and 1 younger cosisters. i am a normal type , i can be friend to everybody in 10 flat seconds, but i dont have a good rapport with them. i give them many presents when ever i met , they dont even say thanks, they take it as it is their birth right. I am very much worried abt my future.my parents are old. except my parents i dont have anybody to help me. Pl. help me.
srilu replied. HI Kavitha,

As a educated person we should look after our inlaws.You are saying that they didn't even took care of your husband when he was ill.R u depending on your in laws money or your husband is not having any respect in your family.Some families are like if they dont care about their son,then these types of problems will occur or otherwise if they are caring your husband and not caring u,then you tell to your husband and understand him about your problem.If he is a understandable person then he should talk with his parents and try to understand them.Even though after convincing also if they are not going to listen,you better stay away from your in laws..But dont fight with them solve your problem patiently.You should not become again burden to your parents.ALL THE BEST. neelu replied. suchi,i think u r not a daughter in law.the way u have replied concludes that u must be a so called dominating mil. iii replied. suchi is an idiot Rohini replied. Hi Kavitha,
U have really gone through a lot.
Are u in any way financially dependent on your in-laws?If not then just don't bother about these cheap people.Don't bother about giving them presents and all.And if u stay away from them ,then focus your thoughts on something else rather than thinking about why your MIL and co-sis behave like this.Since your husband is unwell u might need help so better talk to your parents rather than asking for help from your MIL.If your elder co-sisters behave well with u then u can even talk to them about your problems.Hope things get better for u.