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I am in this strange & weired situation, I don't know how to discribe it...I am 30 yr old female & married settled abroad.my mom passed away last year due to illness.my father is 60 yrs old & lives in india alone.I have one brother who totally ignored my father, (completely ignored, not even phone calls),basicaly they don't get along with each others characters.my father doesn't have any close relatives who can look after him(he has , but every one is behind his money).I tried to talk this issue with my brother, but he dosn't look like take any interest.honestly speaking my father is arogant & rough by talking. but his heart is good.& he is a honest person.well no matter how he is ,still he is my father. now, my problem is nobody is their to look after him.I gave him option of sponcering his green card, but he doesn't want to come, he tells he doesn't want to depend on anyone & he doesn't want to stay with anyone & abroad life may be boring for him.last time when I called him, he was not feeling well.he was laying on bed for 4 days & nobody was their to look after him.now he thought about the situation, he is considering 2nd marriage, ( he wants to marry a widow or unmarried above 45 )& i am have understood that, he is not marring for any physical satisfaction, but for his old age support.& he has also told me that, he will drop this idea, if i don't agree & women will be selected by my concent.but i am in big delema, it's hard for me to digest my father getting married in his old age & imagine some other women in my mom's place.my hubby giving him option to stay in some good elderly home care & stay 2-3 months in my home in a year. I feel very embarresed & humiliated .I think about the comments by my husbands family & in society if he gets married in this age .can anyone please guide me what I can do about this situation? Hosai replied. It is your duty to take care of your father. I am sorry that you do not have the support of your brother. about your dad, if he does get married, and some women out there is willing to put up with caring for him and loving him, then why not? I don't see how this would affect you in a negative way? Maybe it should even make you happier knowing he is being provided for? Maybe you could even find a women in the area where you live (USA?) and he could move down there. Either way, I think he would be better cared for by a women he has a marital bond with then in an elderly home.
And my apologies if I have offended or hurt you by my comments. I don't know your whole situation nor your relegion or beliefs. I am sorry if I have sad anything bad.