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hi, everyone. my sis got married 1,1/2, year back. her MIL wanted her to b with MIL always, she was so possesive about her son that she didn,t even wanted them to sleep in the same room . earlier my sis's hubby showed some attention towards my sis. her MIL got jealous & started working towards breaking there relationship. she succeeded coz my BIL is under her spell. they were seperated for 3 months.then he came back to give it another shot. they r togethr but leading miserable life, whenever he goes to meet his mom , he come back as changed man . they fight. she does all the nasty things imaginable. when they were living with in laws, she tourchered my sis emotionally so much that she came back to us as a broken person.now they live in seperate accomodation , yet she has full hold over him.she calls our parents liar & many other names. & BIL believes it. my sis's needs r still taken care by our parents.she has now started calling our relatives& abuses & say nasty things about my sis to them. dispite the fact that she is most soft speaking, mannered, & adjusting girl in our fuul KHANDAN. if u guys know the old hindi movies she is LALITA PAWAR & if u guys have ever seen the movie - BETA then my BIL is the same example. and believe me guys i am not exaggerating.my sis has done every thing tried to talk to her hubby, but he never believes any thing that she says about his mother. she is one lucky bitch who has full hold over all the men in her life. believe me she can create a scene with such melodrama, that u can givr her oscar award. can any one help with some advice? v do not want to go in women cell yet coz this will spoil my sis's relationship with her hubby forever. v just want a way to get him out of his mother's hold. and open his eyes to truth. so he can differentiate between right & wrong.and c himself what his mother is upto. so that he also can work towards good relationship with his wife. (my sis) S.K. replied. Hello. Please listen carefully. If you want your brother in law and sister to come off any spell that may have been used against them to seperate them,than than I strongly suggest they accept Islam, ask their Creator to proctect them, AND lastly play a tape of the Koran in their house, and God-willingly Satan & his followers will leave the house, and the effects of magic God-willingly will leave too.

Koran 2:102 proof about magic-

\";...Even then men learned from these two, magic by which they might cause a separation between a man and his wife; and they cannot hurt with it any one except with Allah's (God's ) permission, and they learned what harmed them and did not profit them, and certainly they know that he who bought it should have no share of good in the hereafter and evil was the price for which they sold their souls, had they but known this.

[2.103] And if they had believed and guarded themselves (against evil), reward from Allah (God) would certainly have been better; had they but known (this).

Magic is real, and people unfortunately still practice it, and sell the sancity of their souls for a few miserly dollars in this world, only to become dwellers of the fire in the future. This is a sure way to protect one against it, through Islam, through asking God's protection, and reciting the Koran, and playing the Koran tape in the home. It really has postive effects, and the home is filled with peace God-willingly.

Only God can protect us from all obstacles, and truly God is more powerful than evil. And no one can do anything, no magic can work to seperate a man from his wife unless God wills, so remember that. If God puts love between two people's hearts and wants them to be together, then no single human person with or without the aid of magic can seperate that man from his wife. No one will ever be able to come between them. On the contrarty, if God wants two people to be seperated, than
no one or nothing can EVER bring them together, and no matter what, they will be be seperated.

Sometimes God's tests us by seperation, either way - God has dominion everywhere, and it is his protection that surpasses everything. God created your poor sister's nasty mother in law, and can destroy her. Your sister should not be afriad of her, because her mother in law is nothing, and she should put all her faith & reliance in her Creator.

This is the truth,and I speak from experience. My husband and I had a love marriage, and his family caused us a lot of trouble. I was not relegious before I married, and was so afriad someone was putting a spell on us! Sometimes I would feel so normal and happy, and then suddenly my mood would change, and I would just turn sadistic and so depressed. It was so strange. My husband would also have these bad dreams about me that would make him wake up feeling doubtful towards me. One morning when I woke, and my legs had all these sores on them. There were all over my thighs, red bumps everywhere all over in one evening. It was so strange! So many things happened in that first summer we were together, and we were both so shaken and traumatized especially me..

I knew my ML wanted him to leave me. She has said these mean things on the phone to my mother I can't forget. She said, let me come down here, and she will ruin my life, and he will leave me, and then I will return home broken.
I do not wish to continue on with this, because it is not good to dwell on the past, and rekindle old hurts.

Fortunaltly for me, my husband was relegious, and through him, God led me to accept Islam, the relgion of truth, and everything got better for us after that. There are clear ways to ward of evil, and the effect of it in Islam, and just a total way to live your life where everything is complete. I was a Christian before, and this new way of life for me was different, but, so complete!!!!!

My husband taught me 3 parts in the Koran to recite that ward of evil caused by others, and we played a tape of the Koran in our home. We noticed the changes in our life, and felt this huge weight was lifted off of our shoulders! My husband used to have all these bad dreams about me in the begining, and they all left him, glory be to God. And he said one night he dreamt that he was holding the living room door closed with all his might, and Satan was on the other side trying to come through but couldn't . The effects of playing the Koran tape in our house, and accepting Isam, and seeking God's protection by God's will saved our marriage! We were on the verge of divorce many times in the first year I can't even say it, his family was a great cause of distress - and it is not good to accuse anyone of doing magic or casting spells, but I am saying it is better to be safe than sorry. I would rather do everything I can to protect myself against it incase someone anywhere would be doing it on us, than to risk losing my husband and my marriage.

Things are far better now, and all praise be to God for guding us our of that dark time, and restoring peace and sancity to our lives. His family is better now than before, but his mother does not talk to me still. She has accepted it more or less, and is not casuing us trouble, all praise be to God. I don't mind that, and am grateful to God for the peace of mind.

So I suggest you at that you suggest your sister and her husband to follow this advice, and pray to God to protect them and guide them, and relieve them of the troubles his mother causes them. Please at least tell them.

Here are examples the 3 of the invocations one recites three times each at sunrise and nightime - here is the English translation/meaning:


Chapter 112 The Unity

In the name of Allah (God), most gracious, most merciful

[1] Say: He, Allah, is One.
[2] Allah is He on Whom all depend.
[3] He begets not, nor is He begotten.
[4] And none is equal to Him.

Chapter 113 The Dawn

In the name of Allah (God), most gracious, most merciful

[1] Say: I seek refuge in the Lord of the dawn,
[2] From the evil of what He has created,
[3] And from the evil of the utterly dark night when it comes,
[4] And from the evil of those who blow on knots (witchcraft, magic),
[5] And from the evil of the envious when he envies

Chapter 114 The People

In the name of Allah (God), most gracious, most merciful

[1] Say: I seek refuge in the Lord of men,
[2] The King of men,
[3] The God of men,
[4] From the evil of the whisperer who withdaws,
[114.5] Who whispers into the hearts of men,
[114.6] From among the jinn (satan/followers) and the men.

-Again, I strongly suggest you offer your sister and husband to follow this advice. I am only advising, and sharing to you what benefited me in hope it can benfit your dear sister and her husband.

It is really terrible what your sister is going through, and so terrible how this is all affecting her sanity and her marriage. ILS can be manupulative and hurtfful,and it is the terrible realities some of do face.

I read your letter, and felt so sorry for your sister and everything she was going through, that I just had to write, and write from my heart.

If you need any more adive on what I have given you, please don't hestitate to write, like if you need copies of the Koran and the tapes, I would be more than glad to mail them email me at muslim at wapda . com - and forgive if I have offended you, I mean you no harm, truly I don't.


yyy replied. Its very entertaining to watch movies and easy to connect real life characters to reel life characters. Every movie has an ending either happy or sad. I have not watched Beta but you can get the answer to your problem from the reel. Just joking. Take it easy. Yours is just one of those never ending stories about insecure women. If dils and mils took control of their own lives rather than controlling their husbands or sons lives then there would be no problem. That is if everybody minded their own business. Or rather if all dils and mils treated themselves as adults/grown-ups and also their husbands and sons as adults/grown-ups then I think there is no problem. Better change oneself than try to change eveybody else. xxx replied. Hi bhatnagar

It is quite sad to read about your sis story, it is the typical torture of Indian MILs, well is there a way your BIL can find a job somewhere else (overseas) and move out from his mother, i sure even in that case this type of MIL can try to make their life miserable, but atleast you sis can try to change him a bit, on the other way if they don't have a kid, they should try and have one so that he will start thinking about his own family, and slowly their relationship can improve, u guys don't worry about her MIL taking about your family , that is what most of the indian MILs do they take the DIL family for granted and take about them anything, just ignor them, but guess ur SIS MIL is not an easily manageable lady in that case ur SIS should never live with her MIL. Your SIL & BIL should always stay apart from them, If your SIS is not financially independent, she can try to get a job, this will solve lot of her problem. Don't worry UPER SE BHAGWAN THEK RA HI HEIN.