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Please help friends..I need serious and genuine advices…Me married for last 2 yrs in US, hubby is very nice, No major IL issues.
Hubby hired a new assistant, she is white, young and very attractive and dresses up in smart short dresses, Me average Indian looking not working. For past few months, hubby is coming home late, before he used to always come at 6 pm, now after he has hired that white lady he comes home at around 8 or 9. sometimes I call his office after hours, he never picks up and he doesn’t take cell phone calls from home too, his behaviour is also changing, at home he looks more stressed. I think he has been going around with that lady.
How can I confirm that? Also I like to know if he has been sleeping with her or not. Because it looks like that he is losing interest in me and hardly touches me.
I am really tensed..dont know what to do
hi replied. hi geeta

i will say u can ask him why he is being so late nowadays? u know the best way to talk with him right? try to figure out what is going on. otherwise u will be stressed and that will affect ur relationship. but keep in mind, i thnk these men, they don't lke hearing questions from wife and once they feel their wife is suspecting them, they will act lke rebels. and always r his wife so behave lke that. u have the right power on him. like other friend said call her for dinner and know her. how she is . is she a flrting type , like that. god bless u. neetu replied. Hi geeta!
Do not worry if your husband loves you he can't cheat on you,be positive tell him directly wat you 're going through so that may be he gets careful after all, you re husband and wife so 've an open discussion don't play this hide n seek no need to wait or experiment on urself to attract him i mean he marry u so be confident,though i advice u to always maintain urself,hope things get smooth on your side try to call that lady for dinner to ur home so u can no much 'bout her n ur husband behaviour towards each other if u really so suspective,wish things get better on ur side.
all the best. ---- replied. geetha, dont jump into conclusions abt ur hubby. 1st of all i think u hv some inferiority complex abt ur looks, education & being a housewife. try to get rid of that. next.. how do u know ur hubby is not stressed at office with work. maybe he is on some new project which is demanding. or what abt his visa scenario? is he abt to be laid off?
things u can do...improvise on ur looks, try diff hairstyle, diff way of dressing(not short skirts if it doesn't suit u...if u look good then go for it)next..try talking to ur hubby.. not nagging,maybe on weekends when he is free u can gently prod abt his office, work etc & actually worm ur way thru whats bothering him..
still if u feel strongly that he is having an affair with his assistant directly ask him..and once & for all ur doubts will be cleared..be prepared to get the blast of ur life if he is not ahving an affair & is really stressed out at work. u r his wife, u know him the best & the best way to approach him.
lastly get a life for urself..if on h4 visa, do some voluntary work, visit libraries, learn driving if u haven't already. hv few real good friend...if possible get a job..what abt kids..if u don't hv maybe its the right time to start.