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Waiting to try:For Archie

2006-04-18

Name: K.Radha Hi Archie,

I have spent a long time thinking since my doc & you've agreed I can have another baby but I have changed my mind. I feel terrible putting you through my endless questions only to do a complete turn around. I wanted another baby very much and I still do but now is not the time and I only realised when my SIL had her baby a month back. I can't bring myself to go and see the baby yet and I wont until she is well out of what we'd call the 'newborn' stage. And when we did try Archie I just panicked so I think I have a few more issues to get through before thinking about another child. I am very happy with life as it is. I've been giving away some of the things we had for Ishani because I think a brand new begining for my next little one is best. I still can't bring myself to take down her crib after 5 months and I think the day I do will be a turning point but I am not there yet. You've been so good to me & I wanted to thank you for everthing you've done and for all your marvelous help. All the best Archie and take care

Love Kate

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Hi Archie,

I have spent a long time thinking since my doc & you've agreed I can have another baby but I have changed my mind. I feel terrible putting you through my endless questions only to do a complete turn around. I wanted another baby very much and I still do but now is not the time and I only realised when my SIL had her baby a month back. I can't bring myself to go and see the baby yet and I wont until she is well out of what we'd call the 'newborn' stage. And when we did try Archie I just panicked so I think I have a few more issues to get through before thinking about another child. I am very happy with life as it is. I've been giving away some of the things we had for Ishani because I think a brand new begining for my next little one is best. I still can't bring myself to take down her crib after 5 months and I think the day I do will be a turning point but I am not there yet. You've been so good to me & I wanted to thank you for everthing you've done and for all your marvelous help. All the best Archie and take care

Love Kate Hemangi replied. Hi Kate,

I read your posts and felt very bad. I can imagine what has been going through your mind. I cant really answer any medical related questions, but I want to atleast offer my prayers to you. I hope god blesses you with motherhood again. I know this is too personal and if you dont want to share it it is fine, but I want you to unburden your mind. What caused your brother to assault so badly? that too when you were in such an advanced state of pregnancy? I was soo wild when i read that that was the cause of Ishani's demise. I have a little daughter too and very protective of her. I wish I could give you a hug my dear friend. Only a mother can understand the anguish of losing a child. I am sorry if I have nt offered much help, but couldnt help writing to you. Please be strong. archie replied. Dear Kate,
I am certain that what you are doing is perfectly fine and glad that you have understood hidden anxiety, grief that you still exist in your heart.
I personally would suggest to give away or sell most of the stuff that you bought for Ishani and when you decide and work for you bring all new stuff for new life.
Loss is loss, regardless at what stage of pregnancy but a still birth I consider is much more agonising and difficult to get over. Take your time and deserve to. Do not rush into something you are not sure about,
today.

I shall be glad to provide any insight or help you with in my capacity.
archie

2006-04-27

Name: Hemangi
Subject:

oh my god

Hi Kate,

I read your posts and felt very bad. I can imagine what has been going through your mind. I cant really answer any medical related questions, but I want to atleast offer my prayers to you. I hope god blesses you with motherhood again. I know this is too personal and if you dont want to share it it is fine, but I want you to unburden your mind. What caused your brother to assault so badly? that too when you were in such an advanced state of pregnancy? I was soo wild when i read that that was the cause of Ishani's demise. I have a little daughter too and very protective of her. I wish I could give you a hug my dear friend. Only a mother can understand the anguish of losing a child. I am sorry if I have nt offered much help, but couldnt help writing to you. Please be strong.

2006-04-20

Name: archie
Subject:

My thoughts

Dear Kate,
I am certain that what you are doing is perfectly fine and glad that you have understood hidden anxiety, grief that you still exist in your heart.
I personally would suggest to give away or sell most of the stuff that you bought for Ishani and when you decide and work for you bring all new stuff for new life.
Loss is loss, regardless at what stage of pregnancy but a still birth I consider is much more agonising and difficult to get over. Take your time and deserve to. Do not rush into something you are not sure about,
today.

I shall be glad to provide any insight or help you with in my capacity.
archie

2006-04-21

Name: archie
Subject:

comments

Kate,

Sorry to note sad updates. Factor V I am not much aware of that besides it's one of the clotting factor. If you have homozygous mutation in Factor V then you would need thinner to raise chances of better supply but you also experience bleeding so I don't know how good it would be.

Think before getting into pregnancy.

Archie

2006-04-20

Name: K.Radha
Subject:

Shani was murdered!!!! Factor V?

Dearest Archie,

Do you know anything about Factor V (5) Leiden? I found out yesterday that I have it when I went back for all the pathology results for Ishani & I. All I know is that it causes your blood to clot & I should avoid flying from now on because of the risk of DVT.

Also we finally know whay Ishani died. 11 days before I had her my brother assulted me very badly but bubby seemed ok & I was due to se the doc in 2 days so I waited. She was rather cavalier in her attitude so after we lost Ishani I forgot to bring it up.

Yesterday the Doc I saw asked if I had recieved any bloews prior to her death because there was some kind of clot behind the placenta which she said is caused by a hit. I told her what happened & she immediately said we need to exhume the body because they believe this is what killed her. We cremated Ishani so I can't do that but she & the rest of the specialists there feel this is what killed her & are asking the police to begin proceeding as they wish to convict my brother for her death. I was with the police for 5 hours yesterday going over it again & again. They have begun proceedings already!

Ishani's low birth weight & my other childrens has now been explained. Apparently they did not get enough nutrients as my blood was entering the placenta & clotting. Regardless of how she died they have said that she'd not have survived anyway as the knot in the cord & the loops would have caused cerabral palsy.

With this Factor V I can not take oral contraceptives and when I have another baby I will need monitoring & such to check baby's growth. Also she said they usually give some kind of medication to thin the blood but I suffer with bleeding when I am pregnant so they're worried it will increase that so for now she wants me to have no more babies. Do you know much about this Factor V... I did look on the net but there isnt much information available. Thanks again for everything Archie

Warm Wishes
Kate

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