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I need to know how to handle this...
My MIL has a birthday coming up, on that weekend, in October, I would like to take her out and go to the spa (facial, mud bath, pedicure, manicure, hair shampooing, massage)...

---Is it better to be taken to a spa for the weekend by your DIL or her give you money instead?
It's a tricky situation...I need your personal opinion on which you'd prefer.

I have to make reservations at the spa in advance.

She is turning 60 years old. She has always taken care of others before herself. She is a good woman.

Thank you,
Nina happy to be here! replied. Sewing machine...what a great idea! I am pretty sure your MIL will love and cherish it for many, many years to come! she will have hell of a great time exploring it as possibilities are endless with these modern, state of the art machines!

Happy to be here! replied. Nina, it's great that you have such a wonderful relationship with your MIL.

As for your dilemma about choosing a perfect gift, I think the spa idea is great but make sure she is up to it because many indian women at that age may not be comfortable with the idea of pampering themselves whole day by strangers in the spa. Another idea comes to mind is to take a hint from her recent conversations...while talking, she may have expressed a wish or liking towards something in particular and you may then getting it for her and presenting it on her b'day. I am pretty sure she will appreciate your thoughtfulness as well as enjoy her b'day gift. How's that for double the fun...double the pleasure!!

Good luck and let us know what you decide. Happy Birthday to your MIL. god bless replied. Hi Nina. First of all well done for being a thoughtful dil and presenting something special to ur mil on her 60th b'day. I'm sure she would appreciate the personal gift more than money as money comes across as a formality. However, if ur mil is a private person and don't like going to unknown places to socialise or u think she won't relax to enjoy the treat u have planned for her, maybe presenting her with gift vouchers for her to buy something of her choice would be better than just handing her the money.
However, if she is a public person, likes going to new places and enjoys going out with u, u both can safely go the spa and have a wonderful day out. I'm sure whatever u do, she would appreciate it.
Enjoy...