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My in-laws expect a lot from my husband and the sister who lives in the same area tells a lot of false stories to the rest of the family. I confronted her about it and she now hasn't got in touch with us for a long time. I think she is expecting an apology from me because she mentioned to my husband that she was very upset about it. My husband, I feel was beginning to give in under pressure from all of this but I told him that he has to stand by me and that there was no other alternative. I do not like fights in the family but I do not feel that I should give in to false accusations, so I had to tell her that I knew about all the stories she was telling about us. Did I do the right thing?

Thanks. anon replied. Hi,

I think its a projection tactic of your sister in law because she is feeling very insecure. Since you said that your in-laws expect a lot from your husband she must be thinking that you will prevent him from helping them. If your sister in law is married then she must be having in laws who are expecting too much from her husband and she must be feeling uncomfortable about it. Or she must be a paranoid. I too faced the same situation and did like what you did. Well people advice to ignore such accusations but its very difficult in reality. During such times husbands act like criples. Why don't they take courage and ask their sisters to mind their own business and tell them that they are very well aware of their responsibility towards their parents ? I dont know actually if this is the situation with you. Well this my experience.

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