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I have already posted a story in the same board with the same subject.

Continue to that , After that I dont know what happened to my XX friend. Last 2 days Whenever she calls she keeps telling( the below sentences) to me that

1. \"; Dont hesitate to take help from her. Pls ask me if u need any help. \";

2. \"; Tuesday try to arrange someone to drop and while picking up I can come and take u \"; I siad My hubby is going to be here till tuesday so no problem on that day . For that she told me \"; thats ok , Ask him to drop off, Y my hubby has to come bacck from office & pick . I can pick u so that he no needs to come from Office for this \";

3. \"; I am feeling bad that u r wasting money for cab \";

I dont know what happened to her .Last week, If she really wants to help me before she wld have atleast told me that she can pick & drop us , When she was asking how I am going to manage and asked to take help from others. She never opened her mouth that time.

I am just thinking she must be GUILTY now. Still my heart says I should not get her(any) help for dropping or picking up , is she comes there Surely she 'll see the other YY friend and ask her to take us. That time I'll be embarrassed.

Last week I helped her to sell off her mattress.
Last day while talking I just asked \"; where is my commision for selling off it ( Thou I didnt mean it ) ?
\"; if u need u should ask then only u'll get it \"; ( I felt like she wanted to convey(indirectly) something to me that I need to ask someone for helping me for the car matter).

one more incedent with her made me feel :-(

I was abt to take sofa from AA friend, her house is just 4 apartments away. But at last I took sofa from one of my neighbours as they are going away. I felt its very easy for me to move it. she was there with me when I moved and arranged it.
I didnt get a chance to inform my AA friend.
After a day, When myself and XX all met in AA's house, XX girl is asking me \"; how is ur new sofa \"; infront of AA. I dont know y she started the topic like this and asked her \"; dont u be there when I moved \"; I think she wants to convey to AA that I got a sofa from someone. If that is the case, she as well told to her directly that I got a sofa . Rather she was asking like that.

Though I dont expect any help from her , she is behaving like this . I am going mad with her. I am the person want to be happy with friends and have some fun when together , not this type of headache or steaky talk .

Pls suggest me whether I can take her help ( Thou I dont want )
and how to tell her that not to talk like this..

I know very welll I cant change her . but when it comes to my matter she shld nt interfere like tjhis.

lost my patience replied. my blood boils to read your post.
People have so many serious \" real\" problems in life & seek help here.
You are using this board like your own diary of events or something?!..abotu when you bought your sofa & which day yoru friend dropped your son at school, which day your husband was available etc.,...
Listen, The Only Solution to all your problems is : LEARN DRIVING
stop analysing the words & actions of your friends about what they told while selling sofa, offering to drop your kid at school etc.,
Make use of that time to learn driving.
I almost wish you had your mother-in-law or some inlaw living with you at your house torturing you...then these will not seem to be a problem to you!
Now get Lost & dont come back with this problem di bh replied. Hey you are a smart woman.You have already realized this woman's behaviour.She is just sneaky and cunning.Typical of some people.You cant change some people's mental make up. Do not take her help .She will have nothing to hold against you. For the party you can always tell your husband to take you.She is acting like she is all good and no bad thoughts in her mind regarding friendship with you.
And as far as the sofa she showed her evil mind. You just mention it to AA that you took it from your neighbour as it was nearby and you cud transport it easily.She just was proving to AA that you are a bad friend.Dont give her a chance next time.I have been in your position once so i know.
You are a smart woman and have tackled that woman brilliantly till now. Such people require tact and watchful eye always.And hey maybe everybody in your friends circle might have got an idea about her by now only they cudnt tell you anything as you are new to them . best of luck.Take care.