Relationships  Discussion Forum

There are those fiercely independent women who choose to remain single and enjoy life to the hilt. There are women who are forced to remain single because circumstances demand so. There is a third breed of independent women who embrace singleton, then all of a sudden when they realise that the biological clock is ticking too fast, want to settle down and have babies. This is perfectly OK. The problem lies when they want an arranged match.
Let's face the eternal 'Indian Truth'- that women in their late 30s do find it difficult to find themselves a good match.
Parents too are at a loss. Most don't know how to deal with most of the divorcees or widower that come their way for their beloved virginal daughter. Women themselves are not too keen to accept them either. Many a time all of them hit a dead end. That's when the blame game begins. Parents blame the girl for passing off all the 'suitable' matches in pursuit of a career, when she was at an appropriate age in the marriage market. The girl blaming the parents for not hooking her up with the most eligible bachelor. The arguments and counter arguments seems to have just no end.
The arranged market scene amazes me no end. I've gone through the various on-line matching sites, and I was truely surprised to see boys as young as 21, 22, 23 willing to tie the knot. But rarely did I find a girl of 18, 19 or 20 willing to do the saat pheras. I think this speaks volumes about women coming of age. But sadly men are still saddled with their prehistoric mindsets.
As someone rightly said that it's not the women who needs to be liberated, but the men from their age old traditions, thoughts and attitude.
And why the hell the men of the 21st century are in such a hurry to get married? Are they threatened by the new emerging independent confident woman? No Name replied. I dont know abt Liberation etc .. But Let me put my views here.
I am not sure abt men of age grp 20/21 planning to tie knot ... they could be giving ads for Dating or just some timepass. Many do that in Matrimonial sites.
But its true Men have started getting married at the early age like 25 , 26. Atleast the reason in our community is : Screwed ratio of Boys: Girls . There are few girls compared to boys. Among them even fewer who are good looking /educated etc ... So if a guy waits for too long he doesnt get a suitable match.
Secondly , given most of them are in s/w jobs they are well settled by the time they are 25, with a house and a car of their own. Earlier it would take them more time to settle down in life. So after settling down in life the next obvious thing is Marriage ! So they start bride search much early so they have enough time to find the right partner !
I donot agree it has anything to do with Prehistoric mindset or Liberation.