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hi all, i need ur valued advice regarding this ... should there be no secret between husband and wife? my niece was staying with us while she was in college. my husband was very parental towards her. she had a love affair and i know about her affair but i didnt tell this to my husband as he is an old timer who believes in arranged marriages. later he came to know about this when i was 3 months carrying and from that time onwards he started abusing me very much verbally...he was not at all affectionate towards me during the entire pregnancy and now the child is born and 2 months old...now also he is fighting with me for small silly reasons...but the basic bitterness is due to me not telling him thetruth about my niece! as far as iam concerned its not that big a deal..but he feels its a big offense and there should be no secret between husband and wife! now our relationship has reached such anextent that i am too sick of his attitude and dont want to go back and live with him. but when i think abt my child iam feeling guilty that becos of our fight he is not going to have a father when he is growing up. what shd i do? shd i go back to himleaving my self respect anddignity or should i stand up to what i believe in? garima replied. i think u have to think about ur baby because when he will be in the age of 3 or 4 ,he will start asking about his father.there is so many seasons in life but we should not be scare hearted,u must go back, talk to ur hubby when ever he is in good mood.Although ur mistake is not very big but u have to make him understand all the situations.Its very easy to break any thing but a little bit mind and patience can make ur life joyful.All the best and communicate with ur hubby. asheesh replied. I think U should live upwhat u belv in. Every person should understand that we have other commitements also apart from the spouce relation like our professional commitemnts and friendly commitements. no doubt that souce is very special but still e' one has priority in life. I think u did the best keeping circumstances into mind. since is not open minded so it was in his and your' s neice' good favour to keep the things secret. if he doesn' t understand this then he should be advised by some senior person.