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Which idiot told that its dil's duty totake of mils.
I was brought up like a princess in my parent's house.My mil trated me like a trash after marriage. Lemme tell u I am very goodlooking, caring, educated & from a very good family. She tells me during my last visit that i cudn't find a better partner. She yells at me & says that its my duty to take care of her.
Lets be practical...Y shd it be my duty to take care of her? I will take care of my parents & my DH can take care of his parents. Y shd i take care of that bitch who always gossips abt my family? she even hat4es my mere existence on this planet..she whines abt her health 24/7..
more later..just venting KUNJU LAKSHMI replied. Dear sister,

I saw some comments aginst me. It is their commend which I take in its own value.

Praying for you.
forkunjumon replied. hey u old fashioned man or woman. enough of this crap called karma and dharma. my mil illtreated her ils very badly but is still living healthily and commanding. According to you \" BE READY TO RECEIVE TWICE WHAT YOU ARE GIVING TO YOUR IN-LAWS.
\" should she not be receiving her dues. Why is she still enjoying life ? Dont tell me she will receive in another janma.


What BS ? Which old lady with such good English will wander to this messageboard to write such crap ? if you are a male, might u are not looking well after ur parents and hence guilty. KUNJU LAKSHMI replied. The rude words which you used are not supposed to use by educated people like you.

First of all consider you husband's parents as yours. YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU ARE GIVING TO YOUR IN LAWS. Parents are bringing up children especially BOYS with a hope that they will take care of them in their old age. If they are bad shut your ear and be good to them (It is not easy, but practical in my life).

If you have brother/brothers they will take care of your parents. If you don't have, you must take care of them with your ILS.

I am an old, educated lady who saw life of so many people around in our society.

BE READY TO RECEIVE TWICE WHAT YOU ARE GIVING TO YOUR IN-LAWS.

Don't be angry. I told the UNIVERSAL TRUTH.

es replied. i agree that its not DILs responsibility to take care of mil.

My parents is my resp and she is my hubby's resp.

i agree to 'counsellor' tht probs dont resolve by reaching extremes and we need to be patient...

but on lines of responsibility ... its a bullshit tradition to assume MIL is DIL's resp. My parents also raised me like a princess. Of course it is my duty, my resp to take care of them.

And i dont hv a brother.

now u know why there is so much female foeticide in india.

huh. counseller replied. dear friend,
donot take my advice wrongly,
i mean u try to adjust or if water is going above head u have to take separate path, u know urs MIL home condition better so u talk urs hubby in clear way whether he support u or not u ask him make an arrangement to provide u better living situation ask him u r not begger u r from respected and reputed family.
u have sense humor everything so ask him . counseller replied. one thing keep in urs mind ( SAAS BAHU ALWAYS HAVE PROBLEM) as she got earlier with her inlaw she is treating you.
but u now just be patience keep confidence one day all resolve. just do piositive with all. on this planet hope is only thing that keep us alive.
be positive be careful be natural do urs duty honestly one day u will suceed her.
try to get confidence of urs hubby.
and if you need further suggestion pl. contact me
epwltd2004@yahoo.co.in