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Hi,
I read some messages saying that they felt bored on H4. I have felt the same. I tried studying, making friends but nothing works for a long time. It is just like a false way of trying to adjust which is short term. My husband is also indifferent. He always remains busy with his work and never tried to understand my situation. If I make a face and complain he shouts and gets angry.
Married life, always cooking looking after house and baby its a boring compromise. Even if you are sick you have to the routine work.
Is there a real solution. Pls. share.
Sunita Ritika replied. Hi Sunita,

If you are qualified, you can start looking for a job and get your own H1 sponsored in time. It will not happen over night however...it might even take a few months/an year...but just keep applying for jobs on a regular basis. You never know when something might click in your favor.

In the mean time, as others said, join a hobby class that you might be interested in.

Also you mentioned that you tried studying and that didnt last long either. Could it be becuse you took something just for the heck of it rather than taking a course you might be genuinely interested in.

I'm also a bit confused about why making friends didnt work for long for you? Don't you keep in touch with them?

Abt your husband - he might be getting angry because there is really not much he can do about this situation. Since he feels helpless, he might be feeling that you are blaming him for putting you in this situation. Knowing that this issue triggers him off, why not avoid talking about it for some time at least...

take care... Nav replied. Hi !
It is a common phenomenon amongst FOBs(Fresh off board)who have lived a highly socialble life back in India and reach shores. I think you should start liking that life. Get yourself involved in some kind of community activities and search for any hidden talent of you have in yourself. Esp US is land of oppurtunity who knows you might end up accomplishing something very high in life. Also as kids grow you will end up soo busy you won't find time for anything. There is no real solution for your problem, only solution you start thinking that you don't have any problem!!!
Enjoy!
Nav su replied. hi sunita..
chill., do u have hobbies ? take a piece of paper and think of all the things you wud want to do only for urself . write it down.then start ticking out ticks , after looking at all aspects such as money , time ,& true zeal from within.
i was detected with diabetes when i was just reaching thirty.i was very depressed and didnot feel atall enthu to do anything.doc had told me to excercise and just didnot feel atall. one day , i saw a ad in the newspaper and joined the dance class. this changed my life . i thororughly enjoy dancing and manage my hetic career with my passion fro dancing . this has also helped to work on fitness .
see how it worked bot ways .
try it out . it may take a bit time for u .
my sister also suffered same problem of boredom . no time for oneself . i bought her a kit of paper quilling from aus . and forced her into it . today she has started her own bussiness and very happy .
remebre do what you love to do .
its not diffcult .
take care
su