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hi all,
i came to US 2 years back.as everyone else i was very excited to come here.but after coming here my entire personality is changed.i used to be an extrovert & had lots of friends in India.since i had studied engineering i was very confident about myself.but now i'm on H4 visa.so i cant work.so sitting at home from past 2 years like a typical housewife,i'm loosing confidence in myself.moreover when i came here i tried my best to make friends here,but the people who live here (Indian NRI's) are so unfriendly,proud & have a lot of attitude.they dont even speak properly.my husband's work is really hectic,so comes home late in the evening.so i'm so bored sitting all day at home.is anyone going through the same kind of problem?plz help.plz i really need ur suggestions to come out of my depression.any advice will be appreciated.thank u all Priti replied. Just keep yourself busy with whatever. volunteer at the library, anything that is available around you. offer help to people you see around you that may need help. if you have a neighbor you say hello to, bring them some food or something. if you don't have nice indians around you, make friends with americans, italians, mexicans...doesn't matter. start home projects, that will take up a lot of yoru time -- like make furniture, maybe a table fountain -- anything you want -- something that will invovle doing research online, then going out shopping around for material, putting it together...that way you'll be occupied and at the end you'll have a product you can admire. so take up a challenging project since you have time. volunteer. try helping someone in your neighborhood. helping someone just makes you feel good and it is a good way to connect to people as well.

best of luck.

di bh replied. Hey i am also in same situation.i am on h4 from 4 yrs .Even i felt the same when i came first. Its both a curse and a blessing.Make some friends visit libraries and go to malls. I did this all you can also try doing that. As far as people u mentioned yes i have seen people being plain mean.There are some good people too.Only we need to chose .Hey i have done that all Potlucks,parties it will keep u occupied for some time.You can try studying it you are interested.Best of luck. juhy replied. The best thing to do is,if you dont know to drive you can learn it thru some driving school.then you can go for shopping and to your local library.you can spend lot of time in there.it is not true that all NRI people are proud.if your friends are elderly people with big kids then they might be busy with their kids.if you go out and spend some time at your community park or gym or indian markets you may find some of your age and you can be friends.by the way iam in Michigan and i have 2 kids you can keep touch with me.