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Dear All,
I am 24 yr old married woman with a kid. got married at the age of 21. Never ever enjoyed my married life. Strugled a lot.
Goind through a really bad marriage, separated.
Living with a marriage tag, with no love at all from my so called husband. Husband a stone heartedman, not at all attached to me and kid. Left us one fine day and now living a bachelors life without bothering us.
No indications of patch up(already tried thrice). No communications at all. So planning to divorce with a broken heart.

Another aspect...
I have a friend almost 6 yrs old. I can say a best friend, who was in touch with me always.
Now i have come to know he always wanted to marry me. Although he never got opportunity to express it. Still cares for me a lot. A gr8 supporter.
Knows everything about me. Still single.
We talk on phone as he is in UK now. Wants me to come to uk with the kid.
Today i got a mail from him, in which he first time said \"; u don't know how much i care and love u, take care and be always cheerfull and happy as u r precious to me. Love u\";
I have heard this word (love u after long time) Really felt delighted. Perhaps i want him to be in my life. He is so nice,lovable and understanding but really shy. Never speaks his heart out. he says forget all past things and start a new life( but to start i need clear sign from his side)
Honestly speaking he is my strengh.

Now prob is i don't know how to handle this.
How should i react? Should i ask him directly abt his mind or wait for him to say? I think he might have written this mail after thinking a lot. HOW SHOULD I ANS HIM?( he might be waiting for it)

I am afraid to loose him bcoz in case he said that i am just ur frnd then perhaps i'll be shattered again. But if he said he loves me then that's the ans i am waiting for?

My family knows him and likes him also.
I hope u all have got what i am going through?
Need ur sincere, precious suggestions and advices.
thanks in advance.
In a whirlpool,
a Friend.
Shanthi replied. I would suggest use mediator , to communicate in the beginning.Ask someone who is in favor of you , to talk to him about this matter.Find what is in his mind?.Is it just sympathy?love? or friendship.You will be embaresed if you ask directly & answer is something which you don't like.I would suggest you to take the step slowly, since you already had one failed marriage.Hopefully everything will work out good for you. kumar replied. Read my reply on the other board and stick there, do not post in too many places.