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HI! I have been married for 3 years with a seven moth old baby. i started working when my baby waas 5 months old. my MIL said that she would keep my baby. but now when he is growing my MIL does not make anything for my baby and give him. she keeeps giving him milk only. i have tols her politly so many times that he should be eating lunch of mashed vegetables, khichri etc, but somehow she has an excuse everyday. with the result my baby is not developing a tase for anything. all he likes is sweet stuff. she adds sugar in cerelac also when she feeds him. i try and give him solid food at night but to no avail becoz by the time i reach home he wanst to play and then starts feeling sleepy.
at his age he should be eating every two housr. i give him 2 bananas in the morning and milk, and at night either khichri or mashed potato, cauliflower, dal etc. is that enough for a seve month old with milk during the day.

if i tell her why she didnt give hiom she says he dosent eat bt wastes more! now that is how a baby learsn to eat. she is so diplomatic that i just dont know what to do. should i leave my job? iam not a kind of person who can sit at home evryday, i like to be busy in something substantial.
Please help! Myna replied.
I understand how you feel about your baby eating the right foods. However, I don't think you can insist that your mil do as you say, if she's taking care of your son for you while you work. It's nice of her to care for your son, it would be nicer if she followed your wishes. But if she doesn't, I guess the only thing for you to do is find another caregiver, or take care of your son yourself, the way you want to. You could look into the possibility of staying home till he's in kindergarten, then start working again. Maybe it's possible for you to work from home? Otherwise, how about learning something you've always wanted to, or taking some courses (mail or otherwise)? Volunteering for a cause that you care for, might help you feel like you're doing something substantial too.

Good luck. nis replied. I read your acticle--only one problem, what is the meaning of \";substantial\"; for you? Are you saying taking care of your child is not of great value? These are the days to remember,cherish, and thank god for. No, sweetie, its no walk in the park. No time for yourself--give, give and giving are the key factors involved; with benefits that will be reaped years from now. But this a personal choice and perference one has to make. About your mil--thank goodness she taking of your child the best she knows how. Don't be such a nag. I think she has raised healthy children before. Not everything has to be done according to text book calculations and rules. Don't cause unwanted problems with mil over such silly matters. Your child is healthy until his or her doctor says so--don't you think? As a mother we have to learn to wear many different hats and adjust and continue to adjust. Hang in there---nis.