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Every time over small issues, me and my hubby have serious arguments and everytime, I'm the one who has to agree even when he is wrong. Because if I don't he gets wild and tries to cause injury to himself or throws things. I have no option but to obey half heartedly.

How do I make my hubby understand that at times even he should be willing to the decisions I take. Otherwise he's vey loving and very co-operative but is very stubborn at times.

I've to attend my sisters marriage but he's not willing to go with me, he says u can go alone. I want him to accompany me for social commitments. How do I convince him. I feel dejected and always feel bad about this and bad thoughts keep coming to my mind. Please give some good suggestions. JUST DO IT! replied. Dear woman,
I understand your problem, so will your husband if you tell him in the right way. You should discuss your problem with him when he is in a good mood and explain your side of the story and ask him for advice as to what you should do (just like U are asking on this board). Make sure you leave it alone if he starts to get annoyed. Men don't like to be nagged and they do not like to discuss their shortcomings but they are very eager to help a woman in distress (satisfies their ego!). So ask for help rather than emphasizing on his mistakes. All the best! another woman replied. hi friend
i too agree that the above reply is correct, but if u can't leave the house then just ignore whatever he is doing, u just show that u r least bothered about his actions, if he is throwing everything here and there,let him do it. u just observe everything as a stone dont reply to his actions at all.total ignorance is the only solution for this(i think so) go for some counselling. dont keep crying.....
bye friend replied. Hi,
Sorry to read abt ur situation. U r making a big mistake by everytime accepting the blame on urself even if u know its not ur fault and its ur husbands fault. U hv made it a habit with him and now he is taking u for granted. He knows that even if he does wrong, u will take the blame on urself which is very wrong on ur part to do. U hv mentioned that if u dont take the blame, then he tries to hurt himself, I think u should let him do it for a while. He knows that u r emotionally weak and so tries to hurt himself as he knows that u will stop him from hurting himself. I think u should just let him be but dont accept his faults. If he starts throwing things, just leave the house. Let him understand that he cannot take advantage of u. If u try this method, then I think slowly he will start understanding that now he cant emotionally blackmail u anymore. U can also suggest him to try counselling (if he listens). I do know know any ideas to convince him about his going to ur sisters marriage. Only thing is u cannot force him about it but try to change him by changing urself. All the best. Bye.