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I got married 1 year before with a s/e in usa . when i was in India my inlaws i dont know what they said to my husband about my parents but he is very angry . he dont listen to me and newer talk to my parents . and when i came here he said i dont use his money to talk to my family . i newer call them always they make a call frm india to talk to me . And now my MIL says when my parents arrange my tickets only then i can go india and meet them . Pls help me and give a good advise . I hav a younger sis .how can i tell my parents to arrange my ticket they hav the resp. of my younger sis . Tony S replied. Dear Shipra,
U r having newly married problems. Dont worry.The 1st and foremost thing is to have and develop a great relationship with your hubby. That will take a long time, remember if u give it your 99%, the remaining 1% is filled by him, what I mean is women have to take that extra effort to have a happy marriage, but dont do this at the expense of your self-respect. In the meanwhile also develop yopur own personality and individuality. Just ignore what your MIL says as of now. Also tell your husband that I will call my parents no matter what. U cannot stop me. because then should i also pay the bills for eating in this house and staying here ? Then u pay me for cooking and cleaning the house and sleeping with u. In that case let us have a deal. U lend me the money to call my parents. I will take it as a loan and repay you when I start working. Is that ok ? I am sure he will be taken aback. But be careful, of your tone, be firm but polite. This might lead to a fight, let it. Let him realise that he cannot walk over u for small reasons. He may even tell all this to his parents. let them know that u r not an easy nut to crack. Just enjoy your life in the US and enjoy it with him, slowly let him be your man and less of their son - that is a natural phenomenon, to make new bonds u have to let go old ones. Tell him that. all the best. shipra replied. thanks to both of you but i am on h4 visa so i cant do nething . i am trying to do some work but my husband says no . he always listen to his mom. whatever she says is right . help replied. no job no money. do some job and have money. then call ur mummy and pappa and lil sis. ok hi replied. hey friend

u should talk to ur husband about the issues. that only will solve the problems. for that first u have to build a good relationship with ur hubby. then u can talk to him and find a solution. pto then u should wait, if u want to solve the problem. wait only one year now right? u can vist ur parents , but wait. now concentrate on ur new family. love hm and earn his trust. then he'll listen to u and u can call ur parents and u can visit india. only one year, so u should wait and sort out things. wait until u can talk with him freely about matters(earn his trust through love). if he is a sensible man this will work i think.