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Hi Friends,
Just wanted to vent out .. so writing my story. We are a working couple and my Mom helps me raise my son(3 yr old). As she is not well my MIL has come to my place to help me out .
She always has this problem of being normal the initial few days of her stay and after that she displays mood swings. I sometimes wonder if she needs to show herself to some pshychatrist. Anyways that is her !
Everyday I return from office by 7pm and feed my son some snacks as he will be hungry after playing. Yday I got delayed as my vehicle broke and it was 8pm by the time I returned. What I saw hurt me so much ... My son was still sitting in sandpit, mosquitoes biting him and my MIL is chit chatting with some female. She doesnt have a bit of common sense that he might be hungry and needs to be given food. When my son saw me ...he came running and his first sentence was \";Mama ..I am very hungry .. you have something for me to eat \"; his face was all dried out in hunger and he was on the verge of crying ... I almost got tears seeing him !!! He was so hungry and she was least bothered to give him food ! I cursed her so much(ofcourse in my heart) and my mood was totally off!
Luckily my hubby is very understanding ..he felt something wrong and asked me ...When I told this he too was bit upset! anyways I decided not to make a big issue out of it and asked him not to bother much !
But still I am very angry and in bad mood since yday night ... I am sitting at the system but just cant work !!!
I wonder how such an insensitive woman raised 3 children ... she cant even judge the child may be hungry and needs food !!! I am hoping she will go back to her hometown this weekend ! I had enough of her and her help !!
But my problem is when such incidents happen and I am angry ..it shown on my face .. Even my smile becomes very fake ! which creates a bad atmosphere at home. As she is anyway planning to leave this weekend I dont want her to leave after complaining abt me that I dont like her staying here.
So how do you ladies deal with it ? I mean how do u maintain a cheerful face when you are pissed off ??




......... replied. anyway your mil is going back in weekend..so don't mess up things. ur hubby has understood the situation & he is with u. maybe when u r late next time. just call ur hubby & tell him to call his mom to inform abt ur delay & casually he can put in..oh by the way mom can u just give something for the kid to eat something.
i know its difficult to paste a smile & act normal when u r pissed of with someone. unfortunately life's like this.
why don't u put ur kid in some creche. when u depend on others such things r bound to happen. if u say anything now, u will be depicted in a wrong frame.coz really i hv seen some of my relative dils who r really mean to their mils inspite of them taking care of their kids. so u may also be portraid under this light. just chill & let her get back. next time don't invite her to take care of ur kid.