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Hi friends,
I am going through very unbeleivable phase.i accedentally saw divorce papers completely filled and the date shows around july.In aug,my husband took me for vacation trip to canada and we stay in U.S.the next week after back from trip,i saw this papers,along with some house plan(i dont know whether he is in process of buying a home)and some other his office work.when i confronted,he says there is nothing between us and said i should not see his personals.i never bother to see his personals-in 7yrs of marraige,i never know his pay check or he never tells any financial matters,but buys everything for house and sometimes gifts to me.i have a daughter and he loves her very much.he dont have any affairs,but very emotionally attached to his parents and sisters.i am educated and now have work permit and trying for IT job.i am not talking to him and just do my work and he is also busy,atmosphere is very calm and he behaves normal.what bugs me is how should i live with this kind of person?i dont understand him and i cant predict what my future would be...my friend suggested me that even if he says divorce,i should,nt give and drag for couple of yrs.once after my daughter born-we left to india and i had problems-i was there for 14months left-that time also he threatened me of giving divorce(and he is the person who took good care of me for my delivery),later i was back and things were going fine,but i dont talk to his family as they totally ignored me and my daughter,but i dont stop my husband to care them.he vsitedtwice his family later.even after 7yrs,i dont know what goes in my house.is anyone in my situation?personally i dont like to involve in financial matters,but i feel atleast few things like savings for child etc he should discuss with me.i always feel insecured and have urge to get into nice job.i have good parents support,beautiful daughter and i myself look charming and have many skills,but this husband-sometimes too loving and sometimes wants to get rid of me.this on and off life makes me feel sick.please give good suggestions. di bh replied. Hey why are you worrying?your husband is treating you and your daughter well.Dont worry too much .I know its easier said than done.Maybe he did that in some mood .If he hasnt spoken to your regarding this then u shudnt worry.be normal sooner or later he will tell you.Best of luck.