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i am due in 3 weeks and i dnt want my hubby who aint bothered with me or kid during my pregnancy he is being mum's boy, she has split us as she said she wont let us last 6 months and i got married to him last june and knew him year before and he sacrificed his family for me and loved me lot so what has happened now? so hurt and i have left him since december but he told me to back off and i have it was love marriage and now he keeps texting and calling as phone is on divert because he will want to know when kid is born, i aint calling him delivery or telling him. i been in and out of hospital and he has not once since december come to see me.
i aint giving his name on certificate and i am so heart broken. what shall i do?
his mum has splited us and i cant live without him but he is under her influence badly, now i am scared i will give birth to baby and he will try to take it. why is it easy for guys. i suffer all my pregnancy and if his mum says he will do it.
dnt i have any respect.
im only 22 and he has messed me on his mum's saying.
then he tells me he loves me and later he says we might not be together ever, could have divorce then he says he will never divorce.
under lot stress, he knew its affect our kid and its first one and the growth aint good but ok now a bit.
what shall i do?
his mum did this cause she wants her way and i always sacrificed myself did what she wanted but still she took my husband away and my childs father.
really ill, cause i do miss him.
Before marriage he sacrificed his parents for me, loved me lot so what happened now?
he left his parents for me as his parents did not agree to our marriage today he left me and kid for parents. is that how weak his love is?
help
Sur replied. Hi Tanya,

I think 70-80% of Indian men r like that...u have to be little smarter to tackle this situation with love and care.
I don't think divorce is a good solution either as remarrying has its own big problems.

You must try working on it with little more love and care.maybe your husband feels that he did everything for u and in return u r not even being good to him or his parents. men tend to get frustrated sooner then women.

SO if u want to save this marriage...try and think little more broadly.Don't just assume things that your MIL will take away the child etc....Get back your husband with love and show a understanding ear to his words too.

In the meantime also concentrate on your health and perhaps engage in studies or some career making..this will give your more confidenc and satisfaction.

Be patient and i feel everything would work fine...DON'T STOP YOUR HUSBAND FROM CALLING.INFACT TELL HIM THAT U MISS HIM TOO AND WANT TOW ORK IT UP FOR YOUR KID AS WELL AS FOR YOUR LOVE.

Good luck!
don't worry your MIl won't be able to cause harm as when he left them for u once..he will do it again if he is convinced you r a good person..so keep your image UP! fi replied. Well Said Vicki.. beautiful advice.. I agree totally Vicki replied. She didn't take him, he left of his own free will. It just took her selfish influence to push this weak weak man. Is this what you want from a man? Is this the kind of man you can count on? Is this the makings of a good father? These are the question you have to answer.

You do not have to put his name on the birth certificate. You do not even have to admit that it's his baby. Think about these things closely before the time comes.

If i knew then what I know now I might have done it differently...Ran!

I married a man that once told me to never come between him and his mother. I should have seen the warnings but didn't. I can only blame it on my age at the time of 14 and being very stupid and in love. Since then we have been together 31 years but it's been hell with his mom and family. I wish someone would have told me to RUN! I think my daughter and I would have turned out much different.

It took my husband 15 years to grow up and get out of the reach of his mother. She still tries to interfer. But he has finally seen the type of woman she was/is. That first 15 years was pure hell on my emotions and security. I still carry the emotional scares.

Being just 22 you still have your whole life in front of you. Go to school and educate yourself. Make a good life for you and your child. It's that baby that is going to need all your strength and courage. Don't waste your strengths on this man at this time. Care for yourself and that baby. Time will tell the truth about everyone.

God Bless you and the child.