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hi, i've 2 kids.difference btwn them r 22 months. my first kid whos 3yrs old, so far was very good behaviour c moves to all finely.no need my presence always.but nowadays too opposite. she never allow me to take bath too,she always crying & ask me to sit with her always . she never allow me to do any work,not even to restroom means seen.just standing infront of bathroom & crying till i came out. too much shes doing. never allow me to touch second kid too. too much mentally tension i'm getting becos at US its too difficult to manage if kid is like this. almost for the past 1 month shes like this.i called my dad for help.she never goes to him,not even to my husband . dont know what to do? i didnt send her to skool so far.since c's a very sick baby. dr.a sked me not send her to skool till she crosses 4 yrs old. 'ving health issues with her. so i'm unable to take care of my sec.kid too. wherever she goes she need my presence. if shes at hall & viewing tv cartoons ,at that time if i suppose leave her from that place thats it,too much shes crying. if shes at hall i too must be at hall. if she goes for walking then i too come with her never going anywhere within house without me. so too tedious i'm crying and frustating to my dad. my dad too worrying my situation. last time when my dad she enjoyed a lot with my dad she never need me. nowadays always ask me to hold her too when i'm doing any work without her. u wont believe she never even allow me to prepare coffee at morning. too much i'm getting irritated and i'm crying. my second kid is really to pity. i feel very guilty about my sec.one. dont know what to do? if she suppose goes to skool means ok. dr. strictly asked me not to put her skool.so wherever i'm going i'm taking her. if i suppose takes her to my friends house ,there too she never allow me to talk with my friends .she starts crying they r saying beeter u can leave. like this shes doing. she never allow me to attend phone calls too . whats this character? too much worrying. SS replied. Hi,
Dont worry,this is a temprory problem.there may me various reasons for your daughter to cry.It is one of the way to gain your attention.May be,sibling rivalry,she might not know how to express it .so she is crying .once she cries you go and pick her up..it is programmed in her mind that every time she cries you will pick her up and pamper her...that is reason and next time she cries for no reason just try to avoid her and do your work...dont feel guilty..let her cry...she cannot cry for longer time ...
secondly when ever you look after your second one..(ie_for feeding,bathing etc..make her to be with you...ask her to get the towel for the baby,ask her to select that days clothing for your baby,and these small things will defenetly change her mind atleast for that time being...
If your husband co-operates with you it will be more easier...He can take her to the parks ,toysrus chukee cheese etc..may be one or two days she will cy then it will become ok..if you dont mind i guess your husband is not willing to take that responsibility...daughters are more attached towards their dad than their mom...
reg your friends...invite them to your place...your daughter will be more comfortable at your home..over the period of time she will be familiar with them and if they have kids you can arrange for a play group,..appreciate her when ever she is good..gift her small things.(no candies pl).dont pity your self or dont get irritated..
good luck