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my baby iz 4 monthd old weighs 5 .2 kg a very healthy baby but looks thin n beautiful...we r proud tohave her..but my inlaws always comment that my baby looks dull,tired,legs bend,no hairs,dunt smile,dunt play etc etc..loots of complaints..they simply try to pull my leg a loot ..but i have not talk back to them untill now..but always i used to cry alone ..even though i know that what r they said r not true i cant bear they complaining my baby...i dunt think babies at thiz stage are capable to play by their own with toys..am i right??and i feel very guilty of starting solids by her 40th day..i was planned to bf her untill 6 months..but they said al the worst things that they brought their babies with solids by 40th day..n made me to introduce solids..my baby got c ontipated severely n now ok with solids...i am feeling guilty that i shud not have heard them...my hubby simply ignores their words n wunt talk back n ask me to ignore their words.but as a mother who carried my baby n loved for almost 13 months frm the day i got conceived cant bear those words...they didinot stop blaming untill now..what shall i do..i cant talk back to themm ..so plz telkl me any other idea to get rid of this tension..i am very depressed.they says that my baby looks like malnutritioned baby..iz 5.2 kg's at 4 months underweight?now i am loosing confidence i i hardly talkign to my baby as i am very depresed pappy replied. thanx buddies...for the first time i have spoken back wid my bil who pokes his nose reagarding my baby wid me...but feel very relaxed after reading ur mesgss..thax very much shivam replied. hi tell them that u didnt say anything to ur in-laws when they were bringing up their babies, so they dont stand anywhere to give u lectures abt it....

dont act according to what hey say or u will mess us ur baby altogether...imagine giving solids to a 40 day old baby.....
please take control of your baby....she's ur responsibility and do not give in to stupid people wanting to run your life for u ...
have a happy time with ur baby and talk to her lots...
all the best di bh replied. Hey first of all u need to take care of yourself.and your baby. i understand your pain .dont feed the baby solids i know its easy to say but tell them u will feed formula to her.consult your paedatrician and see if u can resume breastfeeding. the baby is losing in nutrients required at this age so she is not gaining much weight.
I have never heard of anybody starting solids so soon.give her lots of milk. she is not an adult to be running around. she is just a small baby. when time comes she will do everything.
why dont u take your hubby along with u to the doc and when he hears the doc say things which is beneficial to the baby tell the doc in front of your hubby that u are feeding solids to the baby and what all u feed. then when doc says the correct nutrition he will realize.best of luck.dont lose heart.everything will be ok.take charge and take control. whatever u do in laws will say something or the other. dont lose your peace of mind on them. not worth it.take a stand and all will fall into place. please take care of yourself and the baby she needs you the most. a mother replied. Please take care of your kid, and just because your inlaws are ruthless people who are just there to make you feel bad please don't listen to them , consult a pediatrician or a child specialist as they have planned schedule for chidlren inwhich month, week, year you should feed your child what, please don't feed your child anything as your in-laws are passing stupid comments and pushing you to do so, poor kid its too early to start solid food and moreover they are jealous there must be some stupid raeson they are talking their frustration out on the kid by doing so, even you child is healthy they will make him unhealthy by telling you that they use to do tjis in their times and typical dialogoue\";KYA HUMNE BACHE NAHIN PAALE\";, and make you feel guilty please take care of your child and consult a doctor not stupid leg pulling in-laws for his diet.

Hope things change and believe if your husband is supportive please don't bother much about you in-laws stay in your room and Yeah ignore them.When they are not bothered and so ruthless to speak about their own grand child in this manner they should feel shame and believe your childs weight and everything you described is healthy, justa sk them did their son, start playing on the groung football when he was just 4 months , but take my advice as it said ignore but defend also don't let any body anytime speak rubbish about your kid next time they say this tell them that he is perfect and at the age of 4mths he is an infant not a big kid to start running so answer back also please in defence to your kid because when he grows up and they continue to speak in this way for him sure it will affect his confidence and morale take a stand start answering them backas once your child will loose his confisdence it will never back to them and todays world is quiet tough so fight for him from today let them know that u are going to stand for him, because if they love him they will never do this and they will be succeful if they are able to influence you like how you started feeding him solids even if you should be giving him Breast Feed and one more thing if they love and give some comments sometime for the kids good are welcome but if they treat your kid like dirt tell them they are not welcom, belive my friens after having kid the kid stand before your husnabd, so take care and enjoy these are innocent moments with your kid that will never come back...