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hi,
i have been married for almost 2yrs i have a very loving and careing husband and a7months old baby girl, and reasonably ok mil and a excelent fil.in short happy familly.
i am a goodlooking person and was proposed by many from my school days, i din eccept any proposal as i loved my parents a lot and din want to let them down and wanted them to take the big decession in my life.
it so happened that when i joined my office may be 6 months before,i really started liking a guy
and by the way he spoke to me and moved i got clearly that he also liked me,but as agirl i din open the topic was waiting for his approch.but he dint ,but we used to talk on phone hrs together in office also we usego for t together.
suddenly one of my old friends from old office called up and he told me that he knew this guy ,and he was married and had a girl baby too.i was shocked but made up my mind that will not show any reaction to this person.i just asked this person whether he knew some body by this name and he told s,so i just told him that he wanted to wish him for his baby,and i saw his face reaction.later when i asked him y he din tell me he told nhe does not wanted to loose me.
but i din wanted to ruin anybodys life.so i made everything clear i got married in couple of months.but i feel guilty for what happend
sometimes i feel i should tell this to my husband, because he is so truthful to me
should i tell him this???/pls help i feel guilty
Ann replied. You don't have to feel guilty of anything. Many people have relationships before marriage. But if it happens after marriege, you shou ld be guilty. Its better not to tell your husband anything. Preeti replied. You didn't do ANYTHING wrong that you are feeling guilty about.

From what you are mentioning, you were close friends with a guy in your office for a few months. You might have been emotionally involved with this guy at one point in time , but when you found out he was married, you did the nicest thing possible - that is told him off.

I don't know why you are feeling guilty...guilt should be there if you did something after marriage....after knowing your husband...nothing like that is true in this case...

If I were you, I would not mention anything like this to my husband. Even though your husband is good, sweet, trusting, sometimes men get a shak ka kira in their head..why do you want to spoil your curent and future life by mentioning another guy you had liked before marriage...It might also be that your husband is not affected at all by your story..but my point is WHY take the risk...

Could it be dear that you have too much time on your hands and that's why you are thinking of old unimportant things like this (though I doubt it with a 7 month old, but still)...get involved with some activities...get a part time job, join the library, go out with friends...

Take care...