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Hi ,
My hubby is a pampered son and matured in every thing on earth except with his mom.Though it's not a bigg issue, smehow I dont like the way and would like to change it a little.

My hubby could tell his mother some problems we faced on the first night(we were entirely new and failed to workout ) and she told my fil to take him to Dr. and so he did. LAter we were ok and I conceived after a month after marriage.(got aborted at 6thweek unknowngly)
But after an year when he told me he told our first day problem to his mother, i'm shocked and remembered how she used to tell me not to get tired in night and to go to sleep early.Later 6months after our marriage she simply changed and seperated our beds to hall where mil and fil sleeps .Luckily we came here to USA
but,Now when I go on vacation to IND, I have to sleep beside my MIL .I know this is because the leniance my hubby given to her even in bedroom matters. I was not dare enough to express my feelings because he feel himself mommyboy and still he sleeps in her lap which looks odd to me.

In fact, in my family my mom doesnt entertain my brother to lie in her lap.so, i dont know how it sounds to everybody,,but i dont like it...tell me ways to stop his intimacy ...I'm not jealous but feeling \";STRANGE'

He is 30yrs now and that we have a toddler , I dont want to make it repeated when we go next vacation.I know i cant change my bed back to bedroom.but, atleast wanna stop him lying mommy's lap. Once, somehow I expressed my feelings and she noticed and made more frequent habit to him.

Tell me ways please!!Is anyone experienced this?I cant say it loud because I have soft relation with my mil that is the reason cant say anything.But It makes me embraassing to see him keep his hands around mom's waist and lying in her lap ...As I see those scenes in bollywood movies, I cant decide whether to feel odd or not.But sure I get annoyed.
Shd I stop it ? HOW? Pl tell me any experiences of this kind to anyone??
isha replied. hi dia,to be frank,
i have aslo not commented about to my hubby.
know what my mil has irretated me to the core she really acts a lot in front of my hubby.some time creats a sean by crying and ,i know there is nothing she just wants to gain ther sons attention.
my inlaws come for chat almost every day ,and my mil will be in trars almost every alternate day,and again my hubby will be very sad . irretating .
now they r going to come shortly.
and for all she has done i din tell a word to her son or to her,the reason is i donet want to be blamed for any thing in future.
will wait and c ,i know these men r not dumb at some point of time they will c this for themself.
and wait till yr baby starts sitting on mils lap hubby will loose that place
bye isha replied. hi dia,
u r rite but once when i told tis to my friend she told me that i am feeling jelous,but i know its not that.in my family also my parents dont
allow such kind of behavior.my brother does not do all that.
but yrs is much worse not allowing to sleep in yr bedroom.
i think mils start feeling insecure,when there sons get married .
is yr hubby only son??
isha replied. hi dia,
i can understand u,as i am also sailing on the same boat.
i cant beleive the same firstnite problem which he told to his mom but he told about it to me immediatly,and his mom coming and telling me to read some books.
my hubby hugging ang kissing his mom
lying on her lap,i know it irretated me a lot.
thank god we moved to US i have a 7 months old baby
and in couple of months they r comming here,and i also have a good relationship with my inlaw ,though she really bugged me in many ways.
my hubby is really very nice guy but can never digest anything against his mom.
hope to get some good solutions from our friends
all the best
takecare