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My only son got married to a girlwho is working in a software company, who he thought will be idealmatch for him.B' cas the girl showed him heaven on the earth.She promised him that she will take care of his parents (Me & my husband)in his absense,when ever he is out of station.She promised that he never have to worry about us in his absense.Believing all her honey quoted words we got married this girl to my son.Every thing was going well, as always I prepare all the food from morning to night,clean the house on the whole I completed all the work.B' cas my daughter-in-law' s office work,so when she returns from her office, the food is ready on the table.Like this one and half year went smoothly.I, from my side as a mother-in-law considered her like my own daughter.But she never thought about me even as a human being.As soon as she return from her office, she will take her dinner to her room & lock bedroom door .She never ever come out to sit & talk with us.But locking the room she will call her mother, sister, & sister-in-laws & have a long chat with them .Next day morning I hv to take the dinner plate,which she had previos night. Me & my husband just watch TV for some time & we go to sleep, b' cas nobody is there to ask, if we need anything.My son stays in another city b' cas of his job.The actual problem started when her parents came for,my daughter-in=law' s first delivery.U can' t even imagine the cruel character of her mother.She deal with me as if I am her servant, the reason is she is uneducated & by God' s Grace iam Graduate.So the ego kills her,so she wants everything in her daughter' s house shld be done according to her wish list.I have never ever seen or heard & I am sure even the readers whoever read this article also not have seen or heard.This lady (My daughter-in-law' s) mother never ever allowed me to have my grand son, even one step more I shld not even see my grand son.She & her husband always keep the room' s door closed as if it is ICU, where the Room door is closed for the pationts.I told my son, but he said he is helpless b' cas his wife never wants me to see the baby or hold the baby.The story is not yet complete,she always go out (She drives the car) with her parents to shopping, hotel etc.She never ever ask me & my husband to join her family.She will buy all the special food, fruits, fruit juice etc for her parents, but I shld not even touch them.My daughter in law got a younger sister, who is thirty three year old & living alone,in a city where she is employed.Now it' s her turn to make fool, an innocent boy, by telling fake promises as her elder sister & get marry.People always say that Mother-in-is a Monster, now U tell me what shld I call a daughter-in-law, who never ever allow a gran mother to hold her grandson.Her parents think that they only can take the baby & he shld be only with them not with his father' s mother,that' s me. Charan replied. Hi we cannot say anything in this case as there are a lot of MIL's that are troubling their daughter in law. In very few cases daughter in law are dominant that is also been taken in a wrong manner. Hardika replied. Some girls think that the world works as they want it to but someone needs to tell them how wrong they are about it. You son is of no use too as even he did not help you in this and even he betrayed you for his wife. seems replied. HI Usha,
We can understand the pain you are going through however these days you have to start living alone as some day you will have to stay alone so better start living now itself. Amruta replied. Hello Usha,
I understand your grief you had done marriage according to your son wish but your was seriously helpless and she will never care for you in future also.So it would be better you discuss with your son and take the solution. sonu replied. mam can very well understand ur situation one of my aunt did the same. moreoever she thrown out her in laws out of the house. at that time her MIL was ill with her 40% brain was dead and not working so she used to forget things and they went to live with their daughter's place where she lost her husband just 10 days back when her parents came to live with her. it was so bad experience i had with my distant grandparents Normal Guy replied. Usha Madam, I can very well understand your situation. Because I am also runnig through the same situation for four years now. But the difference here is I am in your Son' s place, there has been same issues with my wife & her family who are not considering my family as at least as humans. I am helpless. I feel lost, a big failure & alone in this world because I am unable to fix this situation. If my wife understands my family the life will become much beautiful. I am not sure when can I be Happy & How... Ms A replied. If what you are saying is true then take some immediate steps.

First try talking to her. If this does not work stop doing the cooking and if she asks why u did not cook say u r not well. If you want to cook then atleast stop picking up her dishes leave it in her room she will clean up. There must be more to this story. Maybe ur son just told u this girl would look after u after marriage to get u to agree. What worries me is that why should she look after you when your own son is away and not there to look after you. On the same token you should not be her slave. You should not feel obliged to look after her. Who looks after this baby when she is at work. And if it is you then stop doing it immediately. If you are educated I am assuming ur son is too. No offence but a guy gets married and leaves his wife and kid with his parents and takes off. Sounds very fishy to me. Does he come home on weekends?

all the best.