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My sister and BIL were staying separately for the past 4 years because my sister didnot like a joint family and he was not ready to leave his parents. They are married for 9 years now and have an 8 year old son who is now living with my parents along with my sister. My BIL is a small time doctor but used to a very comfortable life style and so he was not ready for a separate family with my sister though he loves her a lot. My siter is a big manager in an MNC and earns much more than him.

Now the son is crying for dad so my BIL came and has been staying here for the past 2 months. My sister again n again asking him to come out of his parents and live in a new home. He is not saying no but is unable to decide. His parents left the decision to him, they are not holding him back. But he is still unable to decide. My sister is getting frustrated daily and both fighting daily in my house. But he is not leaving our house saying he will decide. We dont know what is going on in his mind. Im sure he hates to live in our house for long but he is unable to decide. My sister earns much more than him.

Will he ever decide? What should be my sister' s fate. She is very clear that she will never go back to her inlaws house. She just wants a separate house for him and her and kid. What will he do finally? Ashna replied. Maybe you brother in law has inferiority complex because his wife, that is your sister earns much more than him or maybe he does not want a separate house because he thinks he won't be able to afford to stay separate. Jeel replied. Hey veena, are things solved now or are you still facing trouble? Life is like that it keep testing you in every path. Naveena replied. Hello Veena,
so you need to solve your problem and then only you will be free of tension and peace i wish your problem will be solved and i think it would be better your problem will be solved and you will be happy. Mishra replied. Hello Veena,
It would be better you discuss with your brother in law so that your problem will be solved and it would be better you sit and talk then only your problem will be solved and you can be happy also.I wish you understand. Mrs A replied. Your BIL is a CAD..... he is so worried about his parents why. Does he not want his wife and kid. It seems his parents are more important this his wife and own kid. Yet he is ready to temporarily live with u . Kick him out , slap your sisters son and knock some sense in him. Tell him his dad does not want to leave his parents. I bet you if he went to live with his dad full time for one month he would change his tune as would the dad. Your sis in law needs to kick him out. Ask him to take six months and male a final decision and only contact her when she has made her final decision.