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Name: Sachin P

I am post graduate working in OEM (away from family) from very rural background area elder (2 bros) & married from last 6 years. B4 marriage i had shared my past to wife (she is Graduate). We are respectable family in surrounding 4-5 villages. Though she is from urban area & never tried to understand situation at Home. She is thyroid patient and needs too much time in all activity. To the honest b4 check up abt 1 yr after marriage (i & family) understood the abt laziness. Mean the time some times had some quarrels reg delayed activity. After check up doctor advised it will be recurred when attempted. When ever I or family asked to attempt/try something new thing she thinks we are scolding her. She shares small things to her family. At her home avg income family and always extra cared for everything (like not allowed to cooking or doing household activities). I had always asked do whatever you want, she is free but she never tried like study, art or any thing else. She never cared of family even though me too. She never cares for herself also. Tough I love her. In her view love is only taking care of her & helping in all household activity (helping).

My biggest worry is at least she should take care of her self like fooding, medicine at right time. Which result she has to take too much medicine. I always prefer natural medicines for small issues & she insists doctor visit & even though not taking medicine on time. This forces me to scold her.

It’s my responsibility to complete study of younger bros. They completed study & married during this tenure. Both are married now.

Last year we blessed with baby boy (9 Month)

Another big worry of baby boy care.

Big problem started when spouse of younger bro taking care of family and everybody is appreciating & liking her. Jealousy started…. Even talk over phone to bros & family, quarrels starts I try to keep mum resulting avoiding food etc… My income is better than younger bros & recently started to have separated from family & wealth. Though we are away from home & occasionally visit.

I had talks with their family about this issue but resulted that we always scold/blame her…& My MIL always insisted to be separated from family in front of me.

This result me can not concentrates on work, relatives keeping distance and fears some incidences (which I observed 2-3times that we are forcing her to commit suicide)

Please guide me should we live together…or separated?

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