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I have been married for 3 yrs and my marriage has been up and down a lot. It's a love marriage and 2 different religions. I still have doubts about my husband as I feel he will do whatever his mother says (mother hates my family and my religion). Husband is only child and works in family business. Anyway its been 3 yrs and I feel as if I am in a rut. I keep thinking of what steps my MIL will do next or what she will say next to me via my husband all day and all night. I am working but I cannot even concentrate on my work.
Usually I speak to my mother everyday and usually release all my emotional stress on my mother. I feel very bad now, because my mother is in the hospital due to high blood pressure. I feel very guilty because I keep talking to her everyday about my problems and she is always very supportive. But now she is very stressed because this week I have been very stressed about my marriage.
I feel very helpless and need guidance on what to do with my life and whether to continue with the marriage or not. Anyway I cannot keep talking to my mother about this and affect her health. I need to make a decision and need help. sim replied. Hi PB,

I know how it hurts being with MIL like politically intelligent. and her success in spoiling sont image.
If u want to continue marriage now start to be not caring her anymore and being nice with ur hubby even if he comment something ,just tay cool and ont give much weightage . Behave cool and nothing can be changed until someitme. But eventually , things star setting right.

I always remember one quote. \";HEAVEN and HELL r not there somewhere.Those both exist in our mind and we can take what we want\"; .If u choose to be happy its to some extent in ur hands. It depends on how u take up things.
It's easy to be not caring any relations if we practice.
Ok ,practise it...Say ur hubby \";u r gonna stay cool and good irrespective of his or his mils behaviour \"; .And whatever he scold u..just stay cool and listen dumb.But dont cry or react emotioanlly that he is not listening u or loving u...etc... that is useless.
Ok, later when u be with ur mil..Dont talk to her much which she might assume different angles and complain ur hubby.So minimize talks to ur hubby too. whatever u talk just talk cool and goodthings .
Probably with this change in u they might not change but u can be happier urself while not caring anthig and not taking up towards mind.
Tell ur mom that situations r ok now.
While we r compliaining we might feel relieved but if we have some one to tell everything, we find more problems daily to share with.
So stop sharing with ur mom. tell her that somehow ur hubby changer now and u have hopes he'll be all urs someday.That makes her relieve and also urself u can start being positive urself.
I know this easier said than done...
But later after practicing this attitude, I started being peacefully. And things changed with my hubby too a little.

Best of luck and make ur life urself better.
Ur mind chooses heaven or hell.Choose heaven and hell cant be hell anymore.

BEST OF LUCK DEAR!! Hope u can find something best soon!