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Im a 32 year old female working in a BPO. I worked as a S?W engineer for soemtime in an MNC but quit after my kid( 6years)
And joined this BPO where I’m into techinical writing. Though I get paid much less than I used to earn before, I was happy because I had flexible working hours.
All was well till I fell in love with a colleague of mine who is 8 years younger than me. Atleast I feel so. We even got physical twice and now he says he is feeling guity for my husband. He says he watns to be friends with me now but I feel I cant be friends with him anymore. Im really ashamed that though he is younger than me, he realised his fault first though im not able to come out of it still. I told everything to my hubby yesterday and he was shocked as he could not believe that I can do soemthing like this. He feels very bad but loves me too much to leave me. He forgave me and said I should not even talk to that man. I know m yhusband is feeling miserable inside but is not showing it as I know he really loves me. I have no excuse for what I did ‘coz my husband is really good. Don’t know why I did all this and now Im not able to come out of this…That guy is back to normal and stopped talking to me completely.Though I know it is only good for me that he doesnto talk to me again, Im somehow feeling miserable.Im not able to believe that he could get over all this within no time. I really like him even now but also don’t want to cheat on my hubby again. Also that guy did not chaet me because he told me in the beginning itself that he likes me but likes amny other gals…Infact he chats a lot in the office online and have amny gal friends. My husband says I should not leave the job but should forget everything and move on. I hate myself for all I ddi but feeling very angry for that guy but cant blame him for using me because he made everythign so clear from the beginning. How to come out of this mess?
Sim replied. Some one ,u just said right Exactly the same way I felt 'bout it.And didnt want to depress her so couldnt reply.

Kirtana,I expect u have some problem with ur attitude.After having good hubby and kid,How cud u able to fell in love with another guy and even went further to maintain phy contact?
I'm not meant to be offensive but u definitely need some counselling.
Definitely ur husband did a mistahe while forgiving u....If not, u would have been rather in thoughts, how to get ur life on track again with ur hubby instead of thinking about second guy and getting angry on him.
So, I feel u shd feel repent for what has happened and just try to heal the WOUND ur hubby's heart got ...He will not going to be keeping trust in u again and cant love u that much.So instead of thinking 'bout second guy.Just start being honest ur hubby and regain his love .

Still I'm unable to believe its real story and not fake one?
How come some Indian womwn can go out of their way and deceive that sweet hubbies?? I cant believe it.

Sorry if it hurts u. but its fact. And all u need is some moral values in practical indian respectable life.
Pl dont ever think of any guy.And dont make urself an image of BAD to ur growing son too. He si growing and he need to be learnt bout moral values.It needs a good mom to tweach them.Try to be ideal and restart ur life with a matured way.
Someone replied. First things first...You have no rights to be angry with anyone or anything..You have proved that you could be a very immoral person when given a chance..If that guy had not realised and stopped you first, your love-lust-experiments would have continued till today..
Everyday when you get up fall on your husband's feet & worship him for giving you a second chance in life...
The fact that you are still not able to come out of it proves that you are ready to cheat on your husband again if you get a chance.More than the pity, respect I have for your husband I feel he has done a mistake in life by forgiving you so easily..He should have left you that minute or atleast given you the same taste to help you realise what you have done...then it would have been very easier for you to come out of 'this'. bit replied. u hang your self u bitch ur fit only for that and ur not worth of ur hubby love