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Name: cfrtgv

Hi, I am married for almost 2-1/2 yrs. My husband has 2 sisters. One is married with 2 kids and the other just completed her graduation. My father in law had a business of his own which didnt work out and they sold everything few years ago and moved to his son, all that before our marriage. So, we 5 people live in one of the most expensive city of India. The problem is that they dont have proper sense to use money. My parents-in-law have almost no saving and all their kids have got the same attitude. Our' s is an arranged marriage. I realized it few months after the marriage, that one of the major reasons for selecting me for the marriage was that I was working. My MIL is the
mastermind behind everything. My FIL and husband will just obey to whatever she says. When the married SIL comes with the kids to stay, they will spend lavishly. I have told several times to my husband, that we need to save for our future. But he will say that we have enough(few lil investments, which I really dont think are enough). Even when they have one daughter still to be married and get educated, they dont bother about all that and has totally put everything on my husband. I understand the responsibility as a brother but there is a limit. Past few months, we have come to US. Now my husband says we can educate the sil in US. My PIL wants me to do the job so that all can come here and njoy. Currently I am not working as there are many problems in getting the visa done. I want to work but it really hurts when the hard earned money is spent carelessly. My husband obeys his mother no matter what kind of weird plans she makes. If I say something to my MIL, she will say ' sab ho jayega, dont worry' .Its not that they have not suffered. Their was a time before marriage when my FIL' s business was in loss and my husband lost his job, so technically no income at home for few months. They some how managed. But again they become careless, when that get money in hand. I just dont understand, what to do.

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