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Dear all,

I need your advise and help. I am married for 4 years, and have a 10 months baby. Though I stay n nuclear family, but my in laws keep comming often to stay with us. My MIL is dominating, abusive and too much interfering. I have posted abt MIl issues in \" Role of Inlaws\" section a while ago. I need your advise to deal with this issue. My DH has bought a joint property with his brother, which is under my BIL name on papers. Which means though my husband is paying all EMI jointly but no where on papers we have a prrof that he is also the co-owner. My DH has done this as he has lots of faith in his brother. I had a huge fight with my DH cause of this, all I said that this may lead to future issues, so make sure you have a proof of this property. But my MIL created a huge fuss as my BIL is her fav. she cannot hear anything agaisnt him. She balmed me in front of every one and now everyone think I am a culprit as if I dont want my husband to invest or have relationship with is family. My husband though knows they are wrong but do' nt do any thing. He just keep mum and paying all the EMI' s. My Co-sister , MIL and BIL do not respect or even talk properly in my DH absence but when he is around they show as if they care for him so much. I know this is all cause they need his money to complete the investment. My husband does not have the guts to say \" NO\" to them or even confront them. He just ask me to do as what my In laws, BIL or SIL wants. He wants me to live the way they want us to live. I dont know how to make him understand he is ruing his own peace. P replied. Dear Namrata:
I really feel sad at your state. Infact one of my closest family member underwent the same dilemma which you are presently undergoing. Some Hubbies are like that they priorities are very high for their family members inspite of knowing the fact that he is going to burn his fingers. Never the less it would take a great amount of time and you need to exercise patience dealing with such characters. Probably you might get few opportunities where in seize the opportunity to show that ur hubby' s people are not worth to deal with financially. Meanwhile increase your love towards your hubby and show great care and affection particularly in the bedroom. Thats the only place where certain things could be convinced in a very cunning way. Try to to be wise and adopt strategies dealing with such selfish people. All the Best.